What is the worse thing you have ever said to someone...?

Question

I am feeling so bad about this. It happened about 2 months ago...i was in an abusive relationship and my ex boyfriend who i was living with had a daughter. I was feeling so angry and jelouse..i told him " i wish your daughter had never been born" I have appoligied on several occasions and thoes were just words. his daughter is well aware that i loved her because she crys to me and tells me that she wants me to come back. The relationship was very unhealthy and it was something said out of anger but i cant forgive myself for saything that to an innocent child. please help me ease the pain

Answer 1

It sounds llike his daughter has totally forgiven you and understands. If you apologized to your ex, all you can do now is move on, and maybe do something nice for her every once in awhile, but wallowing in guilt just brings you down and doesn't do anyone any good.

Many years ago, my Grandpa hit me [he was alcoholic ] along with a tirade of swearing. I WAS AROUND 7 YRS OLD AND USUALLY NEVER TALKED BACK, BUT THIS TIME i FLIPPED OUT. i TOLD HIM i HATED HIS GUTS AND WISHED HE WOULD DROP DEAD AND GO AWAY. [ Sorry, I cap locked by mistake] I yelled at him that he was the worst grampa anyone could ever have, then I kicked his leg and pushed him, then ran off. I was afraid he would chase me, so I hid behind a stone wall in a field.

He didn't come after me and after awhile I snuck back to the side of the house. I heard someone crying in the front yard and snuck to where I could see and it was him. He was sitting in a lawn chair crying and talking to his dead wife Maggie, looking up at the sky like he could see her in Heaven. He told her he really missed her because she was the only one who really loved him.

I still feel sad about the whole thing. I think it's the worst thing I've ever said to anyone.

Answer 2

The worst thing I ever said was to my mother. She was throwing me out of the house for no reason at all (I promise), and I was sooooo angry at her. We have a garage that can be opened and closed with a code, and my mom had taken my key from me, so I told her, "I hope you f***ing die! And when you do, at least leave the power on to the garage so I can get my stuff!"

I think it made me feel worse than her. I still feel badly about it, a year later.

And don't keep feeling guilty about what you said. The daughter knows you love her, and she loves you. I'm not sorry your abusive relationship ended, but I hope, if she's not old enough yet, maybe sometime in the future she can make her own decision to stay in contact with you.

Answer 3

You're supposed to be experiencing the pain. That's how you learn to not do the same thing again. I know that sounds harsh, but really, that's what life is all about.

As we get older, we learn from our mistakes. If we could just wave a magic wand and make things all better instantly, then there wouldn't be any consequences to our actions, and we wouldn't have the pain to remind us of the important things.

Keep your chin up and face the reality of what you did. You apologized because you really didn't mean what you said. But you can't unring the bell. So all you can do is to do your best to forgive yourself and make sure you never do something like that again.

Answer 4

It sounds to me like the daughter has forgiven you and still loves you. That forgiveness should be all you need to ease your pain. Don't dwell on suffering, but instead lend yourself to compassion. If it's at all possible, try to continue to visit the daughter occasionally or keep in touch. Definitely let her know that it wasn't because of her that you left, and that you have nothing but love for her. I really hope this works out for the best. Stay strong and be safe!

Answer 5

words that come out of anger stays longer-thats what they say. actually, thats what i think. I tend to hurt my mom a lot with my words, I used to. But i realise that, why show this much of anger when there is love?? Love is pure and it can change your entire life. Shower the lil girl with more love.Take her out.Treat her like your own child.And see how healthy your relationship can get. Your boyfriend will realise that you did not mean to be harsh, but its just that you sounded so out of frustration-towards the relationship going down the drain. You did not watch your word at that time,but now you want to watch each of your step with him and the lil girl. Take a chance. No point thinking about the past, it will only hold you from moving on. Learn from it, from the mistake of yours and make a difference.

Answer 6

I think you hit back the only way you could, verbally.
But it wasnt at the innocent daughter, and it seems she is completely unaware! It was aimed at her father, your abusive ex!
Please dont beat yourself up about this. It sounds like ther has been enough beating. What you said was to hurt the father not the child, and it sounds like he desrved it.
I think you are well away from him, so dont think about returning, but look to the future, with a clear conscience.
Take care

Answer 7

Anger brings out words WE do not mean to SAY. Obviously, the little girl loves you, so I would not worry to much about it. You meant to hurt your boyfriend not her. I would probably have a cool off session with the boyfriend, but still try to main contact with the girl because you maybe the only female role model she has in her life.

Answer 8

I told my 2nd husband that I hated his mother so much (after she had been a b*tch to me for 9 years) that I would only go visit her again if she was in a box.... that was the meanest thing I have ever said.
I would forgive yourself and move on with your life. You can't change the past. You have to be happy and that is what you deserve.

Answer 9

it ok i think in side he forgives u and i think he will come bake but u have to do some thing like take him to ur howse and play a song about forgive me or somthing u sing it and then just tell him that u are sorry and he will forgive u ok and if that didnt work e mail me at fadihziadat@yahoo or [e-mail]

Answer 10

don't feel soo bad.. people say things out of anger.. once i told my mom ( when i was little) that I'd rather be dead .. and how much i wish i had never been born ! Well ... she slapped me ... so there .. we say things out of anger . and you should just forgive yourself ... it's ok.. we all do it ! plus .. at least no-one slapped you like my mom did to me !