I've known this guy since the 5th grade and I moved away. He found me like a year ago and we still had feelings for eachother, but didn't act upon them and didn't see eachother until another year later. In that time I had a kid and told him about it but he still wanted a relationship. I didn't think it was the right time but after computer conversations I let my true feelings win out. A couple of months later he tells me that he doesn't want to be together because he wants to "live life to the fullest" and not have to worry about the influence he would be to my kid. I understood (but still didn't understand) and he said he wanted to stay friends. He has a girlfriend now and everytime we're together we try to be friends but it doesn't work. We end up kissing or doing other things. I know its wrong but I can't help my feelings. He says he still has feelings for me but can't do a 180 with the person he's with. Do I stay "friends" or forget him?
2006-08-02 15:49:52 · 4 answers · asked by lulu 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
So basically what you are saying is that you are with him knowing that he is cheating on his girlfriend? Then he is using you and you are allowing him to. I know you say you are friends but what you mean is you are "friends with benefits". I'm guessing the "doing other things" means sex or pretty close to it. He is with you AND keeping his girlfriend because you allow him to. As long as you continue to have sex with him without forcing him to make a decision, he will continue to come back just for sex and know there are no strings attached. If you want a commitment from him, tell him that. If everytime you see him, you want to have sex with him, then you need to stop seeing him. If you were true "friends", then you would be able to have a platonic relationship without hopping in the sack whenever you are around each other. Good luck!
2006-08-02 15:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by crazzkc24 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that he's protecting you as a backup female chum, somebody to have the closeness of a female chum yet without the actual portion of the dating. sounds like he grew to become into having some dating issues and went to a chum to talk approximately it. regrettably, it additionally sounds like he needs to make advantageous his backup is around in case he calls it off with the different woman. for sure, he's on the component to you, yet even interior the case that the present dating with this woman does not paintings, it quite is a lot from any assure that he would be finding to start one with you. the only way you will ever discover out the genuine answer is to tell him the way you sense. different than which you will proceed to torture your self and sweetness what's up. sure it would desire to impression your friendship, yet you will keep your self an excellent style of heartache by using mustering up the braveness to tell him now, extremely than 5 years later when you have waited and waited for sign.
2016-12-11 05:36:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should take your time and tell him exactly how you feel (EXACTLY) HOW YOU FEEL. don't hold back anything. he needs to man up and go with his feelings. if he says he don't want responsibility why is he doing these things to you wen you two r alone. does he want to be with you or no. he has a choice to b with you and don't take care of ur son, or don't be with u at all!
take your time it's all you!! if you want to b with him tell him and if he disrespects you or doesn't love/like you enough to join you and Ur child's life then he might not be the one or the on rite now.
i hope this advice was helpful. make mine the best i need tha points!!!!
2006-08-02 15:59:39 · answer #3 · answered by Princess Marsha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's truthful with you then..forget him and move on with your life,I say
2006-08-02 15:54:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋