Would you be worried?

Question

Would you be worried if a woman your spouse works with constantly makes suggestive comments (I've seen the emails) and on a couple of occasions blatantly said they wanted to have sex with them? Keep in mind this woman has ALL day to do this and your spouses only response was to ignore her, and he has said she is attractive...Help am I being too paranoid

All this time I thought him just "ignoring it" was OK, and I was over-reacting, it's a relief to hear from so many other women that say it's not OK and he should HAVE SAID SOMETHING, especially since I went to him several times and said how much it upset me for over a YEAR!

Yes, I've seen her she's sent pictures of herself in bikini's and other provactive pics.

Answer 1

this woman needs to be told, by you, to back off... she has no right to interfere with your marriage in anyway , shape or form...... copy the e-mails and tell her you will turn them into the boss of the company she works for...... she is going out of bounds here and needs to be stopped.. personal e-mails are most times a big no no at a business.... and if they are coming to your house then she also is stepping over the boundries..... make sure you start copying them all...... you never know when they may come in handy....... God bless

Answer 2

Well if he is telling you this stuff.. then I wouldnt worry so much about it. Just because the woman is attractive. she may have a yucky personality. Keep in mind also.. that sometimes in a work related situation like that.. his hands is tied (in a way) Not knowing what kind of woman she is or how she would react to him telling her off or trying to make her quit.. she could do some real harm amongst her other co-workers or boss(s). Your husband (if he is ignoring her) is doing the best thing that he can do in my opinion. I might suggest to save these emails. . and when the timing is right. .. they could be forwarded to her boss or used against her.. if she were to try to stir up trouble with him. While I dont believe in tattling.. I do believe in covering your A**. In this situation. I would be keeping them just in case you might need them at a later date. Also if he is telling you all of this.. then there must be some trust on his end. If he had anything to hide at all he would have never mentioned it. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Um YES I would be worried. There are a couple of possibilities here. I know you've seen the e-mails but have you actually met this woman and heard her say these things? If so I'd tell her to back the F@%& off in person. If not...well...

It's kind of weird your husband is telling you she said that to him and that her finds her attractive. That doesn't seem like something a smart husband would say to his wife! Maybe his buddies while drinking beers at a bar, but his wife? Could he be just blowing things out of proportion trying to make you a bit jealous by inventing a rival?

Answer 4

No, I would not be worried. I'd be ANGRY. At the woman, but more importantly, at my SPOUSE! If this is happening in the workplace, it's called sexual harrassment. If he has not taken action to stop it, on some level, no matter how small, he is probably flattered/enjoying it. You are not paranoid. Why are you second guessing yourself? He's married. She is tempting him to infidelity/adultery. Him allowing it to continue unabated is an affront to you. You had better tell him to take action and make it stop! If it were I, I'd ask him why the hell he hasn't straight out told her he is married and considers her behavior offensive and completely unacceptable! Shoot, why don't the two of you show up together and confront her? I would. The reason this type of amoral garbage is perpetuated is because noone talks about it. It's like a dirty little secret. People treat us the way we allow them to treat us. Stand up for yourself, sista!

Answer 5

Being worried depends upon the level of trust that you have in your husband. Granted (some) men tend to have a weakness when it comes to infidelity because they don't always define sex from the point of view in which women tend to which is linking sex to our emotions - sometimes for (some) guys it's just a physical thing which is why they can have extramarital affairs and say they don't mean anything and they swear they are in love with their wives. It's not that I think you are being paranoid but rather cautious when it comes to a woman who is after YOUR man - tell your husband your concerns but assure him that you trust him and it wouldn't hurt if you were about your business with him in and out of the bedroom - instead of allowing her to send him emails with suggestive comments - why don't you send him emails and give him voice mails and phone calls throughout the day to get him fired up about his evenings and nights with you

Answer 6

Oh HELL no! That would NOT go over will with me sister! Those emails are completely inappropriate, and your husband should tell her so straight up. They are inappropriate, and unprofessional, and if your husband is saying that he just 'ignores' it, when he knows it bothers you so much, there might be reason to be paranoid. Tell him to tell her to stop NOW, and if he doesnt, I'd go straight to the hoochie's house and ground and pound her, pop her implants, put her in a rear naked choke hold, and give her a nice Chuck Lidell overhand right! Seriously though, she is way overstepping her bounds and asking for trouble. And the hubby sounds fishy.

Answer 7

I would swallow your paranoia and talk to this women while your man is presant.....kiss him dress nice and tell her that you appreciate her intrests in YOUR man flaunt it work it and kiss him again and when you get home tell him he better block he e-mails and avoid her like the plage or you'll have the locks changed and will make sure he never gets pussy again!!!

Answer 8

No way that would make me angry as well. She is putting the moves on your man and will try anything. Tell him you feel uncomfortable and its either he finds another job or he has to leave the house. .

Answer 9

Your husband need to block her e-mails and not communicate with her at all. You need to confront her and cut off ties with her. Tell her you no longer consider her your friend.

Answer 10

I guess I know what I'd be thinking and I wouldn't just curl my head under and look the other way