When my friend found out that I had a diary, she asked me to read it. I said no. It held all my personal thoughts that I didn't want anybody to know about. but she wouldn't take no for an answer! I had to stand write next to the drawer that it was in because she was trying to get at it.
recently I decided that I would send a letter by mail to her and two of our other friends because we all said we loved getting things in the mail. I just thought it would be a nice thing to do. she came in my room and saw the letters on my bed. she kept begging me to read them,and trying to grab them from me. then after she went home, she sent me another email asking what was in the letters. I got very mad at her and said nasty things that I don't yet regret. should I be mad at her?
2006-08-02 15:31:45 · 23 answers · asked by ava 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It is better to important is your friend or diary
2006-08-02 15:37:54 · answer #1 · answered by netnew 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you have every right to be mad. A diary is extremely personal and no one has the right to read it without the permission of the owner. Private letters are by definition private. Your friend is nosy and intrusive and not a little insecure.
2006-08-02 22:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I would be mad at her. She should respect your private thoughts and your privacy. Now the letters that you were going to mail to her and other friends...I would've just told her that she would get it in the mail and let it go. Maybe you should ask her how she would feel if someone went and read her stuff?
2006-08-02 22:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by Brandy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being mad for a moment is only natural. However we have to forgive and move on.
Friends like that though are not really friends. Someone like that leads me to believe that they are looking for some ammunition to use against you later!
Never cast your pearls before swine, lest they turn and rend you (Matt 7:6 paraphrased).
People are only friends when they have stood with you through your battles. When the chips are down, they don't leave. Until then, they are only acquaintances!
What I do with people like that is i simply acknowledge their character flaw and safeguard against it. For instance, if i have an acquaintance that is an alcoholic, i don't waive a bottle of booze in front of them. I give no cause for my friend to stumble lest i play a part in their sin by tempting them (even accidentally - see 1 Cor 8).
So ya, being mad is OK for a moment, but forgive and move on. Only realize that they have that problem and guard against it in the future.
Good luck!
2006-08-02 22:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by extremelyradicalman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your diary is yours and only yours. If you know people might read it, then you have two choices. Don't write anything that you don't want the world to know or let them read it and prepare for the world to be upset at your deep dark secrets. You have the right to be upset, but be careful. She sounds like one that will cause trouble in your relationships. Good Luck
2006-08-02 22:38:40 · answer #5 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! Definitely, you have a right to be mad. Your friend is totally disrespecting your personal space. Be persistent in making sure she respects your space - don't give in to her. At some point, you need to make it clear to her that its upsetting you for her to pry into private thoughts. Stand your ground and just tell your friend when she asks, "Its personal and I'm not ready to share. Maybe someday, but not today." If she won't let it go, it may be time for you to consider letting her go or at least distancing yourself from her.
2006-08-02 22:39:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand you wanting to keep your personal stuff private. i take it she is not a very close friend to you. i am 22 and i had diarys i look back at some of those things now and laugh and i share them with my closest friends. you shouldn't be mad for that was your space.
2006-08-02 22:37:53 · answer #7 · answered by aimez20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
someone read my diary without consent once, and i got rely mad. u can get mad, just dont bother trying to end a friendship over something like that.
2006-08-02 22:34:39 · answer #8 · answered by Gothalie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhhh no i don't think u should be mad she didn't do nothing wrong she is just nosey, but don't ever let ur friends read ur diary cause i have and i called 1 of my freinds a *** hole in my dairy and she read it and got mad at me and didn't talk to me for a while
2006-08-02 22:36:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People get angry when they feel undervalued, as you should be in this case. Your friend has control issues and doesn't respect your boundaries. You have to provide a behavior-related consequence such as "you can't come in my house since you don't respect my right to privacy."
2006-08-02 22:37:07 · answer #10 · answered by Tony T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already know that she is a nousy person then no. But if you did not know that she was this way yes because what the ***** she needs to get the ***** off your s.hit. Thats just your business not her. Maybe if she was your sister then maybe its a different story because sisters are nousy but *****.
2006-08-02 22:36:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋