help !!!!!!!!!!!!! i am a 38 year old woman and he does NO wrong ( he thinks he walks on water ) and i do no right?
2006-08-02 15:27:02 · 28 answers · asked by robkim04 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
want ot talk
di05712@yahoo.com
need friends at times, not pervs
2006-08-02 15:47:45 · update #1
You just found a super insensitive, emotionally abusive bastard.
Run, run like the wind. Not Joking!
2006-08-02 15:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why some men are the way they are......it's a mystery... but.......
ADIOS AMIGOS! That's what I did! He was deciding who my friends were ( I lost 2 good friendships because I chose to stay with him), he didn't like my family, I was never allowed out without him. I left a job because of him.He wouldn't even let me use our only car! I took 2 busses and a subway to get to work! The apartment was never clean enough, I had to walk 1 block to the laundry facilities (he "couldn't" help), I could go on and on,but I won't...lol...... I finally had enough after 2 years......Tell him "Mr.Perfect" doesn't exsist. Be your own person and stand up for yourself and be happy! Good luck in whatever you decide.
2006-08-02 22:42:56 · answer #2 · answered by iamjustme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there.
I am, and always have been, a "tomboy". I dated a guy who ADORED me because I was "natural and down to earth". And immediately tried to tell me how I should fix my hair, that I should wear makeup, and basically wanted me to dress like Barbie to his Ken. The man used more product on his hair in a day, then I've used in my LIFE. Needless to say that didn't last.
Then I married a guy who loved me because I was so independent and competent. And after I said "I do", he started complaining I was too independent, and too competent..and I couldn't say this and couldn't do that. He was right. I was wrong. Also didn't last.
I recognized I have a pattern going on here. I am attracted to, and attract, men with no/low self-esteem, who feel the need to control in order to feel good about themselves.
So, your options are..trying counseling, but chances are he won't go. He's perfect after all, and this is all your problem..I'm quoting my ex-husband on that one. Stay and refuse to play his game. Leave and refuse to play his game. Put up with it.
You know your situation and him...no one here does.
Just don't stay because you buy into his crap. No one deserves to be treated badly..male or female...and you deserve a chance to be happy. And being treated this way, will not lend itself to happiness.
Whether you stay or go, realize that you may own a piece of why you ended up with someone like this..and you need to get yourself on track so you don't end up with another one just like him.
2006-08-02 22:41:25 · answer #3 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are just Jealous and think that is their way of showing love by control... If you can't stand it then leave!! Otherwise try as hard as you can to NOT let him change who you are.
2006-08-02 22:43:03 · answer #4 · answered by Hidden 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer: The same reason everyone woman seems to want to change her man...even though she must have had some reason for wanting him in the first place.
Are you sure you're not dating a chick?
2006-08-02 22:31:00 · answer #5 · answered by Scadle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you married to this mitty man if not dump his *** now, if so try asking him this if he can't handle answering it and keeps doing this to you get out it is mental abuse, wish you the best I put up with that for 16 years and it never changed now remarried and when my husband get on that roll I call him on it and he stops! sometimes they don't even know the're doing it, if we don't put up a big stop sign ! don't let any body pull you down like that nobody desires it
2006-08-02 22:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is all of them unfortunately and you just have to express yourself. If he doesn't get it or change, well I don't know but you have to let him know exactly how you feel. I think most women have a problem expressing ourselves and expect men to read our minds. Talk to him
2006-08-02 22:33:22 · answer #7 · answered by Lovetoloveyou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know! I'm a woman and I want to change everyone and how they act and feel....If you are not happy consider couples or group therapy
2006-08-02 22:31:06 · answer #8 · answered by ChrissyLicious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the truth is, if a man cannot realize what love means , in the sence of taking care of and attending to the needs of the lady he is with then he is not loving her. confront this problem, and if you already have then let him go and find a "real man" who knows how to love respect and appreciate a lady.
2006-08-02 22:35:27 · answer #9 · answered by jaznjava 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like you're in a power struggle. i'm sure he's thinking the same as you. that you'erw always right and can do no wrong.
its pathetic. grow up and try to resolve this like adults. you know what you need to do, and if you can't, then end it.
2006-08-02 22:33:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋