some of my roleplaying ideas my husband thinks are too out htere. what ever that means. is any kink too far? i mean, between married people?
2006-08-02 15:11:58 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No kink is too far, provided that you mutually agree to it.
As a button from the 70s stated "Sexy is a feather, kinky is the whole chicken."
2006-08-02 15:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
I think the only things that go to far in a relationship is when one of the people does not feel comfortable. If both people are having a good time then why does it matter if someone else thinks it's too weird. If it's too weird for them then they don't have to participate in it. As for a couple if one person feels that something is too out there all you have to do is talk about it and I'm sure a compromise could be arranged so that both people will have a decent time.
2006-08-02 15:17:43 · answer #2 · answered by I_am_Here_and_Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should it be? Roleplaying can add to the enjoyment. Are there any kinks between husband and wife which go to far? Only ones which might result in serious injury otherwise of course not.
2006-08-02 15:17:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married has nothing to do with it. The deal with any kink is that if no one's being hurt, then it's up to the COUPLE. However, if one individual within that couple is uncomfortable, then that's just not going to work. Find something else that works for both of you.
(Case in point: I'm a really super empathic and compassionate person usually; I could NOT cause pain to another person. If I tried, someone who was into it would just be disappointed, and it'd be bad for both of us. Pretty similar with anything involving humiliation and such. Those just aren't my thing. I don't judge other people for whom they are, but that just wouldn't work for me in a relationship).
2006-08-03 09:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is too much, as long as both are comfortable with what is happening. NOTHING!! Maybe his comfort level is different from yours, and you can respect that, can't you? Does he have any fun ideas or fantasies of his own? Maybe he just needs a little encouragement on that line. Have fun, and good luck. I once had a bf who had strange (new to me) ideas, and I was game, but after while I just longed for some good old fashioned missionary stuff. Nothing like it between 2 who love each other.
2006-08-02 15:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by enchiladagirltacomaniacmurraylov 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, if you are married, then why are you putting your boobs on display for the whole world wibe web?
and since you didnt specify what kind of role play, then by looking at your picture i presume that it was something really REALLY weird.
yes, some kinks can be too far. anything that would violate the principle of monogamy.
that, and using animals
2006-08-02 15:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by milisnyaica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. There is such a thing if he is not as big a freak as you are. There was a case where a married couple loved to have rough sex. He would spank her and choke her and things like that. They loved using whips and chains. One day he choked her to death. He did not realize she was really near death because it is normal play for them. He killed her. Real life story. Saw the trial on tv too.
If it is not fun for both, don't do it. Only do things that both of you can tolerate. Just because my friend wants to toss my salad does me I am gonna return the favor! I may not even let him do it because he likes to drink after me and crap!
2006-08-02 15:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by pretty_brown_eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not so fond of "assplay" Being fingers or other things, I think it's just nasty. But hey, whatever turns your crank! Respect your husbands feelings though. If he feels it's too far out there for him, then you wouldn't want him to be uncomfortable right? Have fun!
2006-08-02 15:16:51 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband probably thinks if you want to role-play he may not be good enough for you as it is...
Ask yourself if you can be happy with who he already is...
And as for what is too weird.... well, putting up your pic here with your bosom showing for all the virtual world to see... thats weird.
2006-08-02 15:17:03 · answer #9 · answered by autie_808 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married or not, some kinky stuff is just unappealing to an individual. If you dwell on it there are probably limits for yourself too.
Its normal to have limits - but they often change with time.
2006-08-03 06:07:27 · answer #10 · answered by Alexander Shannon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋