Why do we women tell our friends not to put up with the way men treat us and then we get treated the same way?

Answer 1

It's easy to give advice, but hard to take the step ourself because of the consequence. Some people are enablers, letting others take advantage of them, wanting to be accepted so much that we take the mistreatment. But in reality the man is only using you and when you finally stand up and say "no more" he will either respect you or go on down the road. Never let a man physically or mentally abuse you. It may be hard at first being on your own, but you will respect yourself much more later when you look back. Sometimes we don't see what is going on in our lives, just everyone elses. If you are a close enough friend, ask your friend if she feels her man treats her the same way. I'll bet she doesn't, but the question may get her to thinking and realizing that she is being treated the same way.

Answer 2

Because we do not know what we want. How many women do you know who say they want one thing, but do another when it comes to relationships (thus suggesting that somehow on some level they want the exact opposite of what they say they want -- although deep down no one really wants abuse, though they may be drawn to it for various bad reasons) -- and cover up the yawning gap between expectations and reality with excuses, rationalizations and wishful thinking? It is really hard for a woman to learn to put her money where her mouth is when it comes to living according to her own standards, whether they be high or low. Feminine self-sabotage and internal subtrefuge are some of the reasons why men rule the world.

Answer 3

It is easy for someone on the outside looking in, to tell someone what they need to do with their life. But when you are in a similar situation and in love, Lot's of times you are blind to the facts and cannot see things clearly.

So I wouldn't look at it like your friends are being hypocritical, most likely they are more able to see things you may not be able to see and understand at the time. So do not take a good friends advice lightly. At least hear what they got to say. A good friend won't steer you wrong.

Don't Live Life In the Dark,
Master Psychic Rachel

Answer 4

It easier to give advice then act on it yourself. Honestly, I just not brave enough to do what needs to be done! I haven't given up hope...Friends or family member ask for advice, and I will be glad to try and help...but I can't seem to make myself do what I suggested if I were dealing with the same situation. I do it on here, I read some these questions and crys for help...and here I go giving me hints, suggestions, and ways possibly to cope..me I sit here miserable...why I do it-----why do you? You must do it also to have ask this question--a glutton for punishment as the old saying goes..We need to stop this, and start taking our own advice--maybe tomorrow....lol God bless us all....

Answer 5

We tell them that so they don't get hurt anymore, but we put up with it because we don't love ourselves enough to set boundries. Really, just because you love someone, doesn't mean you have to be his whipping post. Try doing things to relax and to pamper yourself. I am guilty of this as well, but not anymore. I am empowered now. I don't need someone to criticize or look down on me. My abusive childhood only taught me that I had to stand there while being scolled. I am a grown woman now and do need to be abused since I quit abusing myself.

Answer 6

Because it easy to stand on the outside of someone Else's relationship and see what is wrong. When it is your own relationship you don't want to believe it. I spent 14 years of marriage in one of those.

Answer 7

Because love covers a multitude of sins

Answer 8

I oft wonder that myself. I think it is wishful thinking, that they wish they could be strong themselves.