i told him i wanted to wait for sex and he said okay! when we first met i had a boyfriend so he told me "have you ever wanted anything so bad you do anything to get it" referring to me and " i want all of you not just mentally or physically" saying he wants me to break up with my boyfriend!! so i broke up with my boyfriend i was going to anyways! so me and him hooked up and you know we were doing "stuff" and i told him i wanted to wait for sex and he said okay but don't expect me to say i love you! and i said well that's fine cause i wasn't! but two weeks into the relationship he said i love you ( do you think he is trying to get in my pants saying i love you he still hasn't) okay anyways so he always tells me stuff like "if you stick with me for a few more years we'll get married!" (when i turn 18) and that we are going to have 3 kids and for me not to hurt him cause his heart is a "softie" just cute stuff like that!
any opinions?
is he trying to get in my pants or is he serious
2006-08-02 14:57:01 · 65 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well I've read a few of the statements on here...or should I say...advise?...my son was 21 dating someone who was 15 at the time...I was NOT happy with it...I went so far as to tell him, if I was her mom, I'd hunt him down...but...it's 1 1/2 years later and they are still together...it does happen...I do believe however that if he wasn't getting sex from her...he'd of gone else where for it...so in saying that...from what you've said...I do believe he wants in your pants...that is what men ALWAYS want...he wasn't going to tell you, he loves you..after you told him he wasn't getting sex...then all of a sudden he tells you that? I'm not saying that he doesn't have feelings for you..might even love you...BUT...he's using those words to try and get you to do what he wants...see where he is in 6 months if you still haven't had sex with him...then you'll know...
2006-08-02 15:14:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Anyone who says "I love you" after 2 weeks, doesn't love you. He just wants to get into your pants. He's just trying to say the things that he thinks you want to hear so you'll open your heart, and your legs, to him. He seems to really be after one thing. If he really cared about you, he would want to spend time with you, and not just in your bed. If he said he fine to wait, then after 2 weeks said he loves you, then that sounds like all the waiting he's willing to do.
22 & 15 !! Have you ever thought why the guy is not with girls his own age ? And why he is after, not only school girls, but almost primary school girls ? I take it your parents don't know. Because if they did they wouldn't be happy.
I admire your strength and your ability to say no. Also your maturity to ask for help, even if it's not from your parents or a teacher, but the net. But have a good think about what he wants. And if it's not what you want, then leave him. Good luck and stay strong.
2006-08-02 15:26:19 · answer #2 · answered by Franko Unamerican 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hunny... If I knew what I know now at 15 I would have saved myself a lot of heartache. I'm positive you are a smart, attractive, fun girl and that's why this perverted 22 year old is all over you. tell him instead of getting married in 3 years - you should start dating then. No 22 yr old is going to wait a long time to have sex with you. it sucks... but it's true. be careful... if you're looking for maturity date someone a couple years older than you... once you're out of highschool age won't be important - but you'll still need to look out for jerks like this guy.
2006-08-02 15:03:11 · answer #3 · answered by coniferc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to be completely honest with you, odds are that this relationship is not going to work. Even if you guys really and honestly do love each other, your relationship is illegal. In my state, NC, 16 is the age of consent and you're 15. So in my state, he could be charged with statitory rape even if you guys haven't had sex. When I was 16, I got involved with a guy much older than I was...more than 10 years older and when my dad found out, things got bad legally. I won't go into all that. But I will say that if you care about this guy, you'll back off because he's in serious danger of getting into trouble with the law. But it sounds to me like he's saying things to make you more comfortable with him; not necessarily to get in your pants. He wants to say whatever he can to make you trust him and fall in love with him and like him. By you trusting him, liking him and falling in love with him, you will be more likely to do those things that you don't need to do. For both of your sake's, I'd find someone closer to your age and see where you are and how you feel in 3 years when you turn 18. I think you are infatuated by this guy and infatuation can blind you.
2006-08-02 15:06:43 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No 22 year old would go for a 15 year old because he loved her!!! He is trying to get in your pants you will be another one of his trophy's. My husband is 6 years older then me but I was over 17 when we started going out and he didn't say I love you for a lot longer then 2 weeks it was more like 2 months.
At 15 you should really be with guys closer to your age!! You sound smart so use your head!
2006-08-02 15:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from this guy- a 22.-yr.-old would only date a 15-yr.-old for one reason and one reason only- to get in her pants. No, I don't think he's serious, he's throwin' u lines and don't buy into any of them! Sex is a big responsibility, bigger then u realize and you're too young! Concentrate on your schooling and socialize with people your own age, you have plenty of time for sex when u get older. Unless, of course, you wanna be a high school dropout on welfare with 3 kids by the time you're 18!! If this relationship continues, that's exactly how you're gonna end up, so please take a minute to think about what you're doing.
2006-08-02 15:11:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, when you're 15 it may be cool to be dating a 22 year old....but trust me when I tell you that it is NOT cool to be a 22 year old dating a 15 year old. That is actually sick, nevermind totally illegal (in the U.S. anyways). Let me put it to you another way. What if you, being 15, were trying to date a 9 year old.?.? It's the same thing, right? Six years difference in age. Now does that sound logical to you? (I certainly hope not.) This guy is totally playing games with you to get what he wants, and it is highly doubtful that he is serious about any of his future marriage babble. Think of it this way, he obviously has 'issues' if he can't get someone his own age. Right?
2006-08-02 15:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by WittyPrincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's 22 and can't get a woman his own age, something is wrong with him! You are only 15 and have a long way to go before you will even know what type of guy you will want to settle down with (this is typically the guy you save yourself for, ideally). There is a reason it is illegal for grown men to date underage girls... think about it. He might be nice to you, but if he's going after teenage girls at his age, he only wants one thing, and a girl your age is a perfect target because they are easily fooled by candy, flowers, and magic words. Tell him to find someone his own age. And you should too. I'm a mom and I would croak if my daughter was 15 and dating a 22 yr old. Bad idea.
2006-08-02 15:06:18 · answer #8 · answered by ?princesshousewife? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 15 and he is 22....honestly, he is too old for you. I can understand you wanting to date a 22 year old...but him wanting to date a 15 year old? Ask yourself why he isn't dating girls his own age....You can't even vote! I think he wants sex with you....he must be turned on thinking he is going to be your first guy....He is only saying I love you to get to sex...and then in a few short weeks he'll be gone. You are young and vulnerable and you should be with guys your own age....guys that you have something in common with....He won't want to marry you at 18....3 kids...no way. He is just wanting sex with you...Hes no softie....he just knows how to push your buttons....Get with a guy your own age and have fun...and don't be thinking about love, marriage and kids....you are 15 years old. You've got school, dances, proms and fun stuff ahead of you...Marriage should be way into your future...enjoy yourself...and friends your own age. Tell the 22 year old to get a girl his own age...
2006-08-02 15:06:05 · answer #9 · answered by irishME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to get into your pants, (you know that) and you already sound like a wise young lady for holding out, so I think you already know the answers to your questions. I'm waaayyy older than you, but I remember how cool it was to have an older guy pay attention to me, flatter me, say he loved me, and WANT me, but they will say ANYTHING!! to get what they want, no matter how old you are, or they are. It's just the nature of the beast. Believe me, there is nothing more humiliating, or embarrasing, then you giving in, getting absolutely nothing out of it in the back of a car or some couch, and then he won't even look at you the next day, or even call you. Hang in there kiddo - don't set yourself up for a lot of pain. You obviously have respect for yourself by even asking us. Self-respect is a BIGGY!!
2006-08-02 15:13:12 · answer #10 · answered by enchiladagirltacomaniacmurraylov 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋