I dated a girl about 5 years ago and everything was absolutely amazing, she was ideal. Her personality was perfect and she was beautiful. Unfortunately I went to college and she was still in high school. While we were apart we would talk regularly and all was good, except that I wasn't open with her about my feelings. She said I love you, but I never told her I loved her (and was considering transfering) because I didn't want her to miss out on high school events because she had a boyfriend in college 6 hours away. I went home to visit her 6 weeks later and she acted really distant towards me. After I got back to school, when I tried to call her during a scheduled time, she wasn't home and never returned my subsequent phone calls. I look back on the situation, and frequently I regret not telling her my true feelings. I now compare every girl I date to her, and everyone falls short. Should I try to contact this old girlfriend and figure out what happened?
2006-08-02 14:56:32 · 8 answers · asked by Stee_Jans_ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Absolutely. You should find her and talk with her. There's nothing to lose and everything to gain.
2006-08-02 15:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you want something that no longer exists. You are obviously regretting not being more up front with this girl and now she has moved on. By the sound of it, she does not appear to be interested in rekindling any sort of friendship or relationship with you.
You can try to get in touch with her for the sake of closure but I think ultimately all those feelings of hurt and loss will resurface. You need to forget about her and stop comparing these other girls to someone who isn't available anymore because you may be missing out on a great girl and not even realize it.
2006-08-02 22:08:00 · answer #2 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should when you do don't push your self on her but give her and your self a change to talk this over if she wants to
You may be surprised to find out that she feels the same way
even if nothing comes of it it will allow you to close the book and start life I had a story like that and it took us 20 years to close that book and it was done though his sister and she still don't know what we the messages to each other ment but we did and it closed a book and wounds that had been with both of us Good Luck
2006-08-02 22:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened was you broke her heart. Seeing you and the reaction she had should tell you that she has moved on. But you could call her to chit chat and maybe things will work out for you
2006-08-02 22:02:36 · answer #4 · answered by Sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my friend. you did it. you should had told her your feelings. she said she loved you. so she moved on. you could try to contact her but she might have someone else in her life now. i was dateing this man. i seen him over 12 years he wasnt much of telling me his feelings. if you have feelings toward someone never keep it hidden. because it will slip away in a heart beat.
2006-08-02 22:28:24 · answer #5 · answered by shortnsassy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course call her. It is never too late for love.
2006-08-02 22:02:04 · answer #6 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAS there something there before you broke up? because if not there ex's for a reason they exited ur life !!! dont do it if the relationship was rocky!!
2006-08-02 22:05:04 · answer #7 · answered by primet21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah go for it.
2006-08-02 22:01:59 · answer #8 · answered by soniaelizabethann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋