my husband its been very abusive and now his stupid *** is in jail for it.he calls me and says that he loves me and apreciate me more and he is going to change. hes abusive when drunk ad he is going to this program to help him with his alcoholism. but im not sure if i love him anymore. is it normal to feel the need to have someone else? isit normal to feel atracted to someone else and know that someone feels the same but you just feel youll be cheating if you fullfill your desires? is it normal to feel what i feel?
2006-08-02 14:32:30 · 10 answers · asked by super girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to dump him and move on.
2006-08-02 14:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Remaining with an abusive spouse is misplaced loyalty. The abuser does not love you. If he did, he would not abuse you. Abuse is about power and control; to grind away your will and impose his. It's not about love. It's filling an inadequacy in his make-up at your expense. He is playing your emotions with "he's going to change." Everybody deserves a second chance. Sounds like you are already past that. So yes, it is normal to find other people attractive under your circumstances.
If you were my daughter, I'd tell you to assert yourself and leave. The right thing to do is to end your marriage before fulfilling your desires.
2006-08-02 15:02:29 · answer #2 · answered by dyskokyd2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good time to reflect like this. From the way you talk about your husband I don't think you love him anymore. Even if you did love him I would tell you to get the heck out of there before he hurts you again.
Sounds like you have already found someone else. I hope this new person does not drink! Go for it! Divorce the husband quickly and go find love with someone who treats you as you deserve to be treated.
2006-08-02 14:40:25 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st you definitely need to remove yourself from him. Even when he gets out of jail. 2nd DO NOT buy into his words. ACTIONS speak louder then words and anyone can lie and even fake actions for a short time. Take some time for yourself to reflect and for him to really show what his true colors are, and MOST IMPORTANTLY do not cheat on him. The feelings are normal but the action is unforgiving. I'll pray for you to have peace in your soul.
2006-08-02 14:47:09 · answer #4 · answered by t_mundell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that's what they all say. Then before you know it, they're more abusive than ever. Dump this loser and move on. He will just get worse and you will lose your chance to find the right person.
2006-08-02 14:39:00 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are in love with someone you want to be with that person all the time, you feel empty when they are not there. You have to ask yourself this question. Do I feel empty inside?
2006-08-02 14:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by Henry T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not have anything to do with this man while you go find your self-esteem. This is how women get killed.....all the signs are there. Start a new life while you still can.....and please after all this stuff you need some therapy.
2006-08-02 14:39:01 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its normal and you did nothing wrong. Dump your drunken & useless husband and get on your new life with someone who values you.
2006-08-02 14:39:26 · answer #8 · answered by Adorable Mrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and unless you get help you're in for a very tough ride girl.
2006-08-02 14:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by sexy_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of the dumba*s and go for the guy you like, you'll be happier
2006-08-02 14:38:29 · answer #10 · answered by hahaha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋