I have two friends that hate each others guts with the passion. One wants me to choose sides and the other doesnt really care. One always talks about how they want to explode on her. So how do i manage to keep them off of each other? And how do i always get in to the middle of other peoples fights?????
2006-08-02 14:32:04 · 24 answers · asked by Lovable S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
first you ask them why they hate each other then you ask both of them and your self to meet at the y... and then you let them talk for a couple of minutes and then you come back to them and ask them have you to settled your problem. if they say yes you got both of your best friends back and if they don't settle it then you sit down with both of them and talk it out...
2006-08-04 13:17:46 · answer #1 · answered by christina s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea that has happend to me. a couple times actually! its akward when u are with the to of them in one area or place. i just try to ignore what they feel and have fun with the both of them. And hope maybe they will sooner or later be friends!
i mean one time i had a b-day party and i invited 2 girls that were really both close to me but they HATED each other. They ended up being friends at my party after they spent some time together. And now they are bff's! so u never know lol
2006-08-02 21:38:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't go for other people choices, believe in what you want , if you think any one of them is right, stand by the person, but tell them exactly when they are wrong and make it clear to them that you are not going to take any sides as you consider both as friend and never try to mediate a fight it is a false trap which pulls you inside too
2006-08-03 06:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by Explorer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know if this will be the same for you but my husband and I had mutual friends that were in a relationship that broke up. She didn't want us to have nothing to do with him We told her to get lost and we would talk to whomever we choose. I told her I'm sorry they don't get along anymore but he was still our friend. She came back to me crying about a month later! I explained to her that I she shouldn't ever try to tell me to do something like that again.
2006-08-02 21:38:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You always get put in the middle simply because you can be friends with all different types of people, but apparently the people you are friends with can't. I suggest you tell them to work out their own battles and leave you out of it while you do.
2006-08-02 21:37:06 · answer #5 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just well pray about it. I know what this is like. God is the only real thing that can help you out. Or just try to settle out the matter and tell them how you feel. Make them apologize. If not then if they ever try to talk about the other person try to change the subject.
I hope this helps
2006-08-02 21:37:02 · answer #6 · answered by popstar452003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should explain to them that you are both their friends and by putting you in the middle is making it hard to be either of their friends. tell them, if they value your friendship, then to leave you out of it. If they're gonna go at each other, the only thing you can do is to make sure no one goes to jail, you can't change people's minds for them, they can only do it themselves.
2006-08-02 21:38:05 · answer #7 · answered by chinniechinchin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take both of them aside,seperately, and tell the one that always bitches, and wants you to take sides...that if she was a real friend at all she wouldnt make you choose, and also tell both of them that when your with them, there is no **** talkin eachother around you, and to keep you out of the middle of it, tell them to take there drama somewhere else. its not fair to you..as for the girl who doesnt care who your friends with....props to her. Shes a real woman, and a real friend.
2006-08-02 21:39:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If either one is your true friend they would respect your decision to be friends with the other. Obviously the one who doesn't care is the bigger person. How good of a friend is the other girl? Have you asked her to stop running her mouth? Someone needs to put their foot down....
2006-08-02 21:36:00 · answer #9 · answered by sara w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to choose unless you choose not to be friends with either of them. They need to grow up !!!!! let them fight and beat the crap out of each other and walk away!! They are trying to manipulate you.
2006-08-02 21:38:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋