2006-08-02 13:32:44 · 23 answers · asked by steven k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dump her and move on.
2006-08-02 13:36:38 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is a little too quick to tell you to dump her, imho. People who cheat, esp women, often cheat because they are missing something in their primary relationship. If you don't see a future for you, if you don't love her, fine, get a lawyer and move on. The fact that you are asking, that you stayed with her, seems to me that you still care.
So this is what you should really do. Talk to her. Ask her what caused her to cheat. LISTEN to her. Get counseling if you have to. I agree with Free Angel, if she says it's over it might mean that she has stopped cheating physically, but she is still emailing him and looking for a listener and a comforter somewhere other than from her husband. She's looking for SOMETHING. Tell her you can provide whatever that is, and then DO it.
Luck. Consider counseling. An outsider's perspective. She'll tell the counselor things she might be uncomfortable telling you but the counselor will help you see those things anyway..
2006-08-02 20:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by Debbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife is still emailing the guy then the affair is not over. The only way it can be over is if there is not contact between them.
2006-08-02 20:35:52 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not right! She owes it to you to come clean and if she says the affair is over but she's still talking to him then she needs to understand that you aren't a doormat. You have some options:
Deliver an ultimatum and tell her to stop seeing him
Deliver an ultimatum and tell her it's either you or him but she can't have it both ways
Tell her you hope to salvage the marriage but she needs to break it off
Try to get her to go to marriage counseling and see if there is anything left from your relationship that's worth saving
You sound depressed and you have every right to be! If she doesn't agree to go to counseling with you, go without her because what she's done to you is hurtful and wrong. God Bless You and Good Luck!
2006-08-02 20:42:50 · answer #4 · answered by Mother Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
truth be told why stay with a souse who does not value you or shows disrespect to your marriage vows. personally (if no kids are involved) i would get a divorce, move on and next time
"LOOK DEEP BEFORE YOU LEAP". you deserve pure love the faithfullness of your spouse. If you continue to stay you will never forget and will always"wonder" but if she is still "talking" to him it is not over especially if the term we are still friends is used. i think you deserve better for yourself and to yourself.
good luck do the right thing for yourself i am sure she is not the only woman in the sea.
this is the best i can offer you since you question was somewhat vague
2006-08-02 20:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry. My ex cheated on me as well. First of all if she's still in touch with him it's wrong. It's a slap in your face. I'm curious, why did you stay with her after you found out she cheated? Don't you think you deserve better than that? Sure you do! Don't put up with her selfish,cheating behavior. Call a lawyer and protect yourself. If she'll cheat on you, she'll also steal what's yours. This will get easier after all this is resolved. Be strong and don't take it from her. leave and realize there are so many Faithful women out here. Do give up.
2006-08-02 20:42:34 · answer #6 · answered by ShellRe' 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is still emailing the guy, it is not over. What is over, is your marriage. Don't be the fool. Copy the emails, get copies of telephone bills and pictures if possible. Take her to court and clean her clock.
2006-08-02 20:42:52 · answer #7 · answered by bowtierodz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, if she's emailing the guy, it's not over. And if she said it's over and kept it going, she's not going to end it. Divorce her while you can, and get out with as much as you can get. Despite whatever she may say, she has no interest in making your marriage work.
2006-08-02 20:38:38 · answer #8 · answered by Tim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a cheater and always will be one. You need to leave her. She is Selfish and unfaithful woman. You deserve much better. Your her husband not her doormat. Have pride and self respect for yourself. Don't waste your time with that kind of a woman. Find a good one that you can trust and will be faithful to you!
2006-08-02 20:39:48 · answer #9 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is still emailing the guy, it is not over.
2006-08-02 20:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by lavenderroseford 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be over physically but it's not over emotionally. Her actions have hurt innocent people and she still doesn't understand that. She's putting her needs first.
2006-08-02 20:43:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋