Single mom Need Advice!!! PLEASE!!!?

Question

My oldest son who is 6yrs old, in the first grade just started school a week ago.He & the 2 neighbor kids one who is 6th the other in 5th grade walk 2 & from school every day. We live 10 houses down from the school.School bell rings at 3:50 the kids arrive home at about 4:00 - 4:05. Today my 2 youngest & I were at the store. It was a possibility my son would make it home B 4 me. I called my dad who lives next door 2 C if he was home in hopes he`d tell my son mom might B a few minutes late,But my dad still hadn't made it home.I pulled up 2 my house at 4:11. My son was across the street at the neighbors in their back yard. He said he'd just got home & noticed my car was gone so he went 2 go play. My grandparents live next door 2 my parents, if there was a emergency he would have somewhere 2 go. His dad picked him up this evening. Soon after I got a phone call with him saying that I'm not 2 B trusted.Our son was transfering schools & needed 2 live with him. I am wrong but how 2 respond?

I told both I was sorry. I admit to the mistake . I feel bad. But his dad dont stop. He'll tell you he's perfect. He's active with our son but ignorant to me.

Answer 1

Tell him to get over himself. You had things that needed to get done and you had tried to call HIM and his dumbass wasnt home. and what is wrong with him going to the neighbors house for a few minutes? its not like you were gone all day! your ex needs to grow up a little.

my advice is to start documenting everything your ex does. write it all down with dates and times. get a voice recorder and record your phone calls with him. get a camera that records the date on pictures and use it when needed. This way, if he does take you to court you can bust out your notebook full of documentation and have all this crap on him compaired to his ONE thing on you. besides, he cant deny his own voice in court lol.
good luck!

Answer 2

2 Things...One you are not a bad mom. We all make mistakes or have circumstances beyond our control. At least your son went to a neighbors house. Question is, was he supposed to go to grandparents house when something is wrong? If so, then he did a bad thing by not doing as he had been taught. Two...your ex thinks he has you under his thumb and wants to use this to make you squirm. Fight back...you have custody...don't let him push you around. He's a low down rat for trying to use this against you in the first place. BUT use this as a learning experience so it doesn't happen again. Be sure your son knows what to do next time. Good Luck

Answer 3

you do have yourself in a spot but don't feel down on yourself most parents run a few minutes late at least once in their children's lives so don't feel to bad, after all you are a single parent and we all need help some time

if you have custody of the child you should contact the police if not then talk to a lawyer and find out your options or you could go and take your child back with out involving police and lawyer's but if you do, do this go straight to a lawyer and ask him to take out interim orders stating that the child remain in your care until a court date can be set down for a custody hearing

if your son is not being abused by you or anyone else in your home there is no way a court will give him custody after all you have been the soul carer of the child for how long now

i hope you get your child back and everything works out for you

Answer 4

I am a single parent of one and I am a man. Sometime we men look at women as non-protectors. He is looking at this situation as one that you weren't there to protect "our" child. Let him know that you took every step to make sure your child was safe. 6 minutes is nothing to get irritated about. In a normal situation, he knows that you would be there or your son would have somewhere to go. If you trust your neighbors, then he should see the fact that your son was safe, also knowing that you took every step available to provide safety and information to and for your son. Ask him can he guarantee that he will be there everytime your son comes home to make sure he's safe. He can't. If he says he can, then he is lying. No parent can be there all the time. Stand your ground. He has no right to just take your son from one incident. -E-

Answer 5

Tell the ex he isn't as smart as he thinks he is. Doesn't he read the papers and listen to the news? He prefers his son should of stayed alone outside and risked being kidnapped? Tell him your son did exactly what you have told him to do. And if the ex was so concerned how come he didn't call and say if you ever have a problem and need me to pick the kids up, I'm there to help you and the kids out.

Answer 6

Are you leaving something out here, It sounds to me like your ex is spying on you. DID HE PICK YOUR SON UP FROM THE HOUSE BEFORE YOU RETURN HOME? OR DID HE COME AFTER YOU GOT HOME? And it is not your fault your father was not @ home, although it does look bad on us women/mothers when we don't have it together when it comes to making sure our kids are safe, Mistakes do happened we mothers need to always have a back up plan. Now your husband does not have the right to just call you up and make those changes over riding you and your rights if the two of you have joint custody. Is there more to this story maybe you can share? If you ever want your kids then STAND UP AND FIGHT FOR THEM AND BE SURE TO MAKE ARRANGEMENTS IN REGARDS TO THEM HAVING AN ADULT TO SUPERVISE THEM IF YOU ARE LATE GETTING TO THEM. BECAUSE ANY CHILD UNDER 12 years of age can not look after themselves.

Answer 7

ok, daddy is just making a big fuss and stuff trying to make a power play. is he making your son transfer schools or something? if you have sole legal and physical custody then he can't make the school transfer.

best case scenario is that this will blow over in a few days, worst case scenario is that this will actually go to court but he will not gain any ground on this.

rectify the situation and disarm any possible weapons he may have if this does go to court by picking up your son from school from now on.

don't fret too much about it

Answer 8

He is just using your mistake to try to gain custody of your child. I mean honestly, it was a big mistake because anything could have happenned to your son while he was alone, but things like that happen. You did the right things to try to keep him safe. You just can't predict what is going to happen to you to keep you from picking up your son. You should explain all of this to him and hope for the best. And if all else fails, the courts will have to decide where he stays.

Answer 9

Sounds to me like he was just looking for a reason to get your son to live with himmyou did nothing wrong.Your son was at the neighbors house playing with the child that lives there.Your parents and grandparents live right next to you as well.What makes him think he can raise your son better than you?Your son was responsible and went to where he knew was a safe place.You thaught him right.

Answer 10

The guy obviously needs a little time to put this into perspective. From the sounds of it, your son was never in any danger and he was comfortable with his surroundings even in mom's absence. He sounds like a well-adjusted kid (I'm guessing he gets that from his mom). DO NOT feed yourself mammoth doses of guilt; your ex is already feeding you enough of it.