He told me: "It is a very good gift to give, but maybe is better to you to wait until you get marry".
I would like to do it, but he is from another person, so is unfair to her, he told me that She really loves him, but he also told me that he loves me in a very special way, I don't know what to do, because I don't want, in a future, my husband to cheat me.
I really love him, and I cannot leave him.
Please help me!!
2006-08-02 13:08:23 · 10 answers · asked by ema 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
first know that regardless of how much he loves u . you will always be special to men most men with proper up bringing ( raised respecting women and with values) would be happy to be with u . second a man who cheats does not see love but sees lust . so u have to think what if i give him a part of me will he love me enough to leave his wife or will he get what he's been seeking and leave me ? this is a question u must ask Ur self
third any man who tells u he love u and is married is lying and u know y because he is still going back to her at night to sleep and act like everything is OK because that's his home. if he really love u he would of told u he don't want to continue his marriage and he will leave her for u
2006-08-02 13:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by lady_boxer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can leave him... Value yourself, love yourself and realize you can find a man that loves you and only you! A man who will value your virginity and who will be faithful. They exist you know!
Let this man go because he's messed up... Men who cheat have issues... or just don't have any feelings for others.. so you don't want to get your heart broken by somebody else's husband do you?
Your significant other is out there.. be patient and you'll find him... and in the meantime... fill your life with studies or anything productive...
Your virginity is priceless and once you give it away you can't get it back... wouldn't you want to give it too the man who vows to make you happy for the rest of your life???? That's why you should lose it to the guy you marry, get it? For your own happiness...
Hope this helps... best of luck... seek advice with some religious or spiritual person who will give you good advice!
2006-08-02 22:19:36 · answer #2 · answered by C a R L i T a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you not heard, what goes around, comes around! Who's to say that after being with this man that he doesn't turn around and do to you, exactly what he's doing to this other girl, right now!
Basically honey, this guy is running away from his present problem's he's having right now with his wife.
Oftentimes a man, after reaching middle age or after being married to the same woman a number of years, ( and the marriage has become boring or commonplace) will get panicky about his masculinity. He thinks a new partner will give him what he needs.
What's really sad about this whole business, is that people get hurt, and that probably will be you, because you say he still loves his wife. Which tells me that he has no intention of leaving her.
This guy is not only successfully lying to his wife, he is also lying to himself and to you.
When God said " thy shalt not commit adultery" ( Ex. 20:14), God knew exactly what He was doing. Adultery ends in humiliation and revenge! Adultery breaks hearts and shatters lives!
" Can a man hold fire against his chest and not be burned? The man who commits adultery is an utter fool" ( Proverbs 6:27-28)
Tryst me on this one sweetie. leave this guy alone for your own sake. Many married people have discovered " stolen waters " is no match for the guilt and heartache it brings!
Like I say, that this guy if he can do it now to his wife, what do you think he can do to you down the road? Get some brains girl!
2006-08-02 20:41:04 · answer #3 · answered by trieghtonhere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, it's a horrible idea to get involved with a guy who's already involved. Second, the reason he stopped is probably because he knew what he was doing was wrong, and then it just became 'too' wrong when he found out you were a virgin. He's a dog, but atleast he isn't 'too' much of a dog. And he's right to have stopped, I hope you don't lose your virginity to anyone short of spectacular, and he is not spectacular.
2006-08-02 20:13:54 · answer #4 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that he is right.Why would you want to give yourself to someone completely who can't do the same for you.He is with someone and you said he said that she really loves him.Did he say that he loves her?I think that you would be giving him his cake and he's going to have you both.Clearly he isn't leaving her and do you want a man who would cheat on his wife for you.What will he do to you if you became her.I don't think that you should be asking if he didn't want it is it love?I think you should be asking yourself how much do you love yourself?You have to put yourself in her shoes too.How would you feel if your husband was telling another woman he loved her in a special way.I think that you should wait for someone who is going to love you and only you.
2006-08-02 20:12:58 · answer #5 · answered by redanimalmuppet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well obvously he is married and dispite his love for his wife he is cheating with you ...you become the wife and he is going to cheat on you as well for another....this is the truth open your eyes and ears and listen your body is your temple save it...for the one who desearves it who can compliment the kind of women you are and cherish the love you have to offer a man who can treasure you and respect you........ thats what being special is
2006-08-02 20:22:23 · answer #6 · answered by BLUEEYES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love means never having to say you're sorry.
2006-08-03 18:47:41 · answer #7 · answered by SlapADog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop acting like a whore your supposed to be a virgin
2006-08-02 20:48:43 · answer #8 · answered by babygirla718 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he respects you....doesn't want to hurt you. i don't like that he married and wanted to have sex w/ you but ...he sounds like a desent guy.
2006-08-02 20:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by shakie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know
2006-08-02 20:12:45 · answer #10 · answered by Me-mi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋