He cheated on me not once but twice, am I being foolish for staying in this marriage? This was all done in a 6 month time frame and we have been married for almost 10 years. These 2 incidents are supposed to be the only times he has cheated.
2006-08-02 12:59:38 · 16 answers · asked by moccha386 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it can if both parties are really willing to work at it. And, IMHO, if you have children, you have an obligation to try. Check the link below for some articles that helped me.
2006-08-02 13:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Probably time to separate and re-evaluation what you both want in your relationship. It would probably be wise not to be intimate with him until you iron out where you are going in this relationship. He has exposed you to possible diseases - who knows how often he has done it, or how often the women he has dated have been around. Get yourself checked out - tell the doctor up front that your husband has been cheating and you are concerned about "any gifts" he may have given you in the process. Also, find a counselor and get some professional advice. Good luck.
2006-08-02 13:13:30 · answer #2 · answered by mumsy_of_two 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but it depends on the efforts of the husband and the wife. Some husbands do stop cheating, but the mistrust they created in their wives takes a lot of "heart" to get their wives to trust them again.
I know a lady whose husband told her he didn't have to show her anything and that she should be glad he came home at all, even if it was three o' clock in the morning.
It's your decision on how much more work you want to put into it. Make the decision based on being true to yourself and not on what you think other people expect you to do.
2006-08-04 13:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by divabylaw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the ball is in your court. You have the power to make it work or decide to call it quits. Either way, you will encounter lots of difficulty. If you decide to make it work, your husband has to know the rules. Next time he does anything against the rules, he is out. You need to make sure he isn't carrying any std's before you are intimate with him again. It is a long process of forgiveness, but it is possible. If you have kids and decide to call it quits he will never be out of your life. Usually calling it quits results in more heartache than trying to make it work. Never give up. If he doesn't want to make it work, then you know what to do. Good Luck
2006-08-02 13:08:23 · answer #4 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two times? yup you ar foolish to stay in the marriage.
Contrary to what many say, Marriages CAN survive infidelity. But twice in such a short period of time indicates that he is either bored with the marriage or has lost complete interest in you.
2006-08-02 13:06:32 · answer #5 · answered by blah_in_az 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but absolutely not. Well at least a happy marriage can't proceed infidelity. You may forgive, but you definitely won't ever forget. That's just the way it is.
2006-08-02 13:03:43 · answer #6 · answered by Heavensent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you can find that trust it'll never work. You already know the answer to your own question. Don't look her for answers. Go with that gut feeling.....It may hurt now but it'll be better for you in the long run.
2006-08-02 13:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We don't allow that at our house. Is your self esteem that low to let someone cheat on you not once but twice.
2006-08-02 13:04:06 · answer #8 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the marrige. Once a cheater always a cheater.
2006-08-02 17:14:25 · answer #9 · answered by lavendergrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup, the only times he will admit to cheating on you
and yes, the mariage can survive if you are gullible enough to continue to accept things as they are
2006-08-02 13:26:03 · answer #10 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋