my 13 year old is always late!!?

Question

my 13 year old daughter gose out alot with her bf or friends and always comes home late i yell at her for it but it dosent work i have tryed not lettign her go out the next weekend or makeing her do more chores but it dosnt work
she is allway like at least an 45 mins late one time it was like 4 hours what do i do

he 16 year old bf is all way the one driving and she dose have a cell phone but she never has it b/c i take it away when she is late

Answer 1

Your daughter is a whore and you are a terrible mother. She needs to be taken from you and put in a quality foster home before she gets knocked up or contracts HIV. More than likely she already has it.

Answer 2

This much is clear...she has no respect for you, so she doesn't obey your rules. It was easier back in the day when you could dole out physical punishment (by FAR the most effective kind of punishment). But thanks to modern laws, and school personnel who will speeddial CPS for almost any reason, that doesn't work too well anymore.

You have one option. Be her parent/security guard 24/7. That's parenthood. It's not easy...it's not always fun...but that's the way it works. If you have to stand behind her with your arms folded and a stern look on your face while you make sure she stays put, then that's what it'll take! If she tries to pick up the phone, hang it up. If she turns on the TV, shut it off. If she tries to leave, yank her a*s back into the house.

You're the mother of a teenage girl. If you don't exert control now, it'll only get worse and worse until you'd rather not have her around anymore. And if she winds up pregnant, then you've got a whole new ballgame to play.

Answer 3

Who is driving her or is she walking? If she's being driven by another parent then have a talk with the parent. A 13 year old needs to learn the importance of being on time, so I would let her know that for every minute she's late (give her the first 5-10 mins free) that she'll lose that amount of time times 2 the next time she wants to go out. That puts her in control of her consequences and will hopefully encourage her to be more timely.

Answer 4

dont take away her cell phone that way she can call you to let you know why she is running late, if she is late and does not call ground her for a week the first time and progressively get longer. She will then learn to come home on time or atleast call to let you know she is alright. At her age she should always be supervised either by a group of friends or by a parent of friends or yourself. When she calls to check in because she is late have a friend or adult talk to you too to vouch for the activities going on because 16 year old boys like sex. I should know i met one who was a rappist and just barely got away. Also call in at random times, no more than twice a date and check in. She is too young to have the freedoms of a 16 year old

Answer 5

Bluntly said. Stop being a push over parent.

She is late= grounded=can't go out til she is responsible and mature.

It doesn't work because you are 1) not consistent 2) You give in.

If she is late, find out where she is at and get her. Better yet, call the cops to go look for her. She is out at night past curfew, cops can arrest her and FINE YOU for it. I suggest putting your foot down and being a parent about it. Not letting her make the choice to run around whenever and with who ever she wants at her age.

P.S. If I were you, i wouldn't allow her to be in the vehicle with the 16 year old bf. I would contact his parents. I would take down his license number and give it to the police to look for. I would also have a talk with the boy stating his a.s.s is mine if he doesn't treat myself and my daughter with respect if that was me.

What is the point in a cell phone if you take it away? Kind of ignorant to not have any way of communication in case of emergency etc. How about when she goes out, she has it so you can contact her. If she disobeys she doesn't get cell NOR does she get to go out. If she runs up the bills, then she needs to either babysit to give the money to pay for it OR she does more chores to compensate the price she owes.

Answer 6

Your daughter is already a teenager and teenagers don't like it when their parents try to control them. They don't like it when their parents scream at them even if they know that their parents are right. They also don't like it when they are given more chores, so that's not the way because it only makes things worse.
But do give her a time on what's the latest she an arive home, like a curfew.
Sit down and talk to her on how much you care about her that you don't want her coming home late because you're worried of what can happen to her because you will feel responsible about anything that happens to her. Talk with her about what you need to talk about but don't get mad and start screaming at her because then she will start screaming back and won't listen. If she starts screaming at you, don't scream back.
Try to make a strong bond with your daughter and tell her to trust you in anything and that you are there to help her in any situation. Try to make her trust you so that she will listen to you and don't arrive late because she wouldn't want to hurt her friend (you).
Teenagers are often late because they loose track of time because of the fun they're having, so don't blame her or get so mad at her for being late. But do understand her and let her know that you are there for her, that way you'll know what's going on in her life. Also, get to know her friends and her boyfriend better.

Answer 7

it's just starting, get a grip on it now.yelling is not going to help.take her to a day trip to JD, the officers will oblige you with that, i keep hearing people talk about their 13yo's bf. when did 13 become an acceptable age to go out on dates (alone or group) with a boy? and HELL NO DON'T GIVE HER A CELL PHONE, a gift for not obeying the house rules????? c'mon people

Answer 8

I would ground her for at least a week or as long as it takes for her to either get the message or wont be an irritation to you. When you punish her for her actions do you relent and let her do what she wants? That could be the problem for her not relenting to your rules. Or, you could try embarassing her in front of her friends... that one worked wonders with me.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

beat her. that always works lol.......jk or u can jus ground her until she gets tha picture. tha fact that she is doing this means she basically has NO respect for u and that she dosnt fear u. do u member when ur mom or dad would say smthing and u would do it? well thats because u were prolly scared of the consicuenses and respected them. get her to respect and fear u a lil bit and there u go.