I put up with my wife's internet addiction and lazy ways. She never cleans house or herself but yet I never yell at her about it. I usually call my best friend or clean house. I love my wife but hate who she has become. I am to the point of leaving her because all i ask of her is to clean house and take care of herself. How does this make me a jerk?
2006-08-02 12:43:58 · 15 answers · asked by soollddiieerr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Who ever called you a jerk just does not understand. I would let that person rent space in your head. Do what is going to make you happy. If you feel that you have tried your best, gave it your all in this relationship than do on with your life. God Bless and good luck.
2006-08-02 12:50:11 · answer #1 · answered by florie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First time Ive talked to you. Dont let the answers get to you. Most of the people answering these have no idea of what theyre saying and just answer without really thinking about what they really want to say. This is a problem in everyday life too, but thats a fact of life. From what Ive read above, I see no problem on your part thus no way are you the jerk. Your wive needs to wake up and smell the roses before she loses everything. Time for some tough love, you need to get tough and talk to her and lay down some house ruleslike no cleaning-no computer, etc. If she refuses or renigs, the start thinking of your options to be happy again. You definitely are no jerk here. I personally think the real jerks are the ones who only half "read" these questions and answer just to get points. Good luck
2006-08-02 19:55:50 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went back and read your other questions that you have asked recently...You need help! I would like for to reread some the questions that you have posted. Your wife might have her problems, but you got some major ones yourself. You don't respect or seem to love your wife, so why not leave her. What kind-of life are both of you living? She must be miserable, because you are..Why not talk to her? Seek some counseling for both of you..You said you loved your wife, but hate who she has became. I can understand that, but who are you now. You are writing some every ugly things about her and your relationship with her. Have you discussed any of this with your wife, maybe she is sick..instead of talking to your best friend, or worrying that the dishes aren't done, or playing on the computer(which you do alot of) talk to her. You aren't a jerk, but you ain't far from it. Some of things you have asked, if she knew she would proably leave you! I know I would in a heartbeat. She deserves your respect, just as you deserve hers. So, shut this thing down, and go talk. I am glad you don't yell at her, because that never solves any problems, but there is reason why she has changed, so why not see if there is something you can do to help her. Ask her! Talk to her! Please seek some help---God bless us all.............
2006-08-03 00:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many kids do y'all have? If you both have lots of kids, then your wife is TIRED of being a slave and cleaning all day..Sorry, but you stay home and try to take care of kids all day--its hard!
I taught Pre-K last year, taking care of 5 year olds all day and it was the hardest job in the world: cleaning up their mess every 20 minutes, feeding breakfast & lunch, taking them outside to play-Dang!
Cut your wife some slack and hire a maid to come in 3 times a week. Dont leave her yet. Just hang in there.
2006-08-02 21:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by Plus-Sized &Proud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't make you a jerk, however the cleaning the house, um... unless she stays at home and doesn't work then you should help her out with cleaning the house. but i think you should sit down talk it out with her, express how you feel and if she can't change her ways for you, then its time to talk about divorcing. good luck!
2006-08-02 19:52:53 · answer #5 · answered by Missy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! OK this does seem like a problem... I just answered one of your other Questions and she obviously needs help, you have to communicate with her and find what is at the core of her feelings of why she needs her computer so much...
It is addicting to be here on the answers but most of us realize it and pull back...
It most likely is not the computer itself, that is just her escape from the real problem... Talk to her openly from your heart.. Take her out to dinner just the two of you and be caring to her when you talk about it...
If she refuses the honest effort you put forth, take it from there...
OK this is my own que to ski daddle on out of here too...! I get to go cook dinner now! Ugh! OK I hope the best for you both.... â¥
2006-08-04 19:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you always on the internet complaining that your wife is on the internet? Yes, you're a jerk.
2006-08-04 19:10:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu are a jerk!! Don't try to make it seem like you are the nice guy here!! I've seen your other questions!!!
2006-08-04 13:33:34 · answer #8 · answered by lila 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you are saying I do not think you are being a jerk BUT I do think you want to fu*ck your best-friend. I am sure you have imagined it already.
2006-08-02 19:49:55 · answer #9 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You BOTH need a netural observer to guide you through this mess. If she will not go to a counsler, you go alone. Start saving money and be ready to split.
2006-08-02 20:35:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋