Why do people say I'm pretty when guys never choose me?

Answer 1

I believe your question is sincere, and deserves a sincere answer. I took the time to read your questions and answers to gain some insight into your personality, and I may be able to help.

You appear to be highly intelligent, and somewhat serious. You have what is typically described as a melancholy personality. That doesn't mean sad; this personality is typically a perfectionist and artistic. When guys are looking for a casual relationship, you would not be an ideal companion; because the poor fellow will be mentally challenged and have to display some manners.

It's time for you to do the choosing. Find guys that you admire, and spend some time with them. Don't wait around for Biff or Rocky to invite you to the prom. Ask a guy that you like (preferably with a brain) to go to a play or an art exhibit with you. He may be asking the exact same question as you!

Answer 2

I got the same thing growing up. I was a shy person, very much a wallflower. I choose whether or not I want someone to notice me or whether or not I want them to approach me. Think about it, how approachable are you? Do you tend to look people in the eye and smile like they're exactly the person you wanted to see and greet them with, "hi, how are you!"? Or the shier type, whose more likely to hang back and keep to yourself, never look people in the eye? I definitely notice a difference. When I'm feeling good, I walk with my head up and there's a spring in my step and I've got a smile for everyone. But I'm feeling awful and I just want to be left alone, I tend to walk with my eyes to the ground, shoulders slumped, and arms close to my body. That's a difinite "unapproachable" vibe to it.

It could also just be that your trying for the wrong type of guy. Lord knows I always wanted the guys I knew would never notice me in a million years when the nerd in the corner really was more my type. Except when you're young you never really notice, people tend to get caught up in stereotypes, and Oooh, don't date him type of thing. I definitely did. Lord, all the good guys I missed out on in high school because of what the popular kids said. You know, the nerds and whatnot people tend to stay away from?

Just some thoughts....

Answer 3

You can be gorgeous, and not be what someone is looking for at the same time. Like a guy could say, that girl is hot but not my type or not what I'm looking for.

Answer 4

A good friend told me this 8 years ago, and i hatted it for the past 7... "you are the type of girl that no one wants as their girlfriend, but everyone wants to marry"... think about that... because now that i'm older i see that as a compliment... i think it was just because i didn't put out! =D

Answer 5

Not to be mean but maybe your not so pretty?

Lord knows I am not, but I really don't care what others think either.

How about getting a profile together with a good photo of yourself then re-ask the question...

Answer 6

don't worry about all those other guys
and remeber looks aren't everything
the perfect guy for you won't care what you look like.
its all about what's inside
i know that sounds cheesy but its true

Answer 7

you're probably so pretty guys are afraid to ask because of rejection if you say no.

Answer 8

Maybe you need to find the right crowd for you.

Answer 9

Either they are trying to be polite....or you need an attitude adjustment

Answer 10

because guys are jerks and the right one has not come along yet. hang in there. :o)