Ok, here it goes again-hope i am clearer this time
I am in love with a guy and he feels the same. He is bi and I am straight. We are good friends and dance together. My parents treat him cruely esp my mom cause a bi guy broke her heart once. I am 22 and just got out of college-I am @ my parents while apartment searching. My parents say all kinds of awful things about him and have forbiddin me from dating him. Saying that it would ruin my life and how he can't possible love me. This breaks my heart to hear them say this stuff. We want to go out so badly and maybe get married someday(we have known each other and felt this way 4 years). My parents went so far as to hint that they might write me out of the family. I am willing to take that risk but I need some help dealing with them. Please!?
My family and I don't get along very well and my parents used to abuse me. I have posted many different times I know. I just want different and fresh opions. Thanks. Love to you all for helping!
2006-08-02 12:31:22 · 11 answers · asked by angelofmusic 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Oh dear...I didn't get to this question before I answered your other one! Wow....considering your parents used to abuse you as a child, it seems like they're doing the same thing now, especially threatening to "write you out". If you and this young gentleman love each other, more power and blessings to you. You already realize he's Bi and he knows your straight. Great. You're friends with each other. Good People who marry should always be friends. Yes, you are 22 and of legal age; but you are also living under your parents roof. Their rules, unfortunately apply there. You can continually remind them that this gentleman is your friend and that you would appreciate them with-holding their spite. I'd move out of there ASAP to your own place. It sounds like they don't really "love" you the way you should be loved. They're still trying to control you. You're walking a hard road, there, Dearheart. Good luck.
2006-08-02 13:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you are an adult, so really you can do what you want. But you are living with your parents, in their house, so you need to respect their house rules. It is unfortunate that they are mean, and don't accept your choices. Your best bet is to get your own place soon, and live your life, and hope for a better relationship with your parents one day. If you have been abused, I hope you have had some sort of counseling or therapy to deal with your feelings and experinces. The important thing is to take the high road and be a better person in this situation, and accept that not everyone will agree with your choices. You can't make all the people happy all of the time. but you can choose to not be vindictive and mean back to your parents. Good luck.
2006-08-02 12:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by East of Eden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you are their dime cater to them. Tell lover boy to chill for a month or so. When you get your apartment and are paying your own bills then do what you want to do.
You have to learn to pick your battles. You just can't fight them all. You have to decide which ones have the most priority and if the consequences are worth it.
Think about the short and long term consequences of being with a bi man. If you marry - are you willing to let him have extramarital flings with other men? Are you SURE he is bi? Most men tend to be more gay than bi. There are some male bi's, but most want men more than women. Could he be wanting you for a mother of his kids while he has a guy on the side?
I'm not saying to not go with him. I'm just saying to go into this with open eyes.
Good luck!
2006-08-02 17:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard being somewhere you dont really feel comfortable, but Lady love you are an adult now, your 22 years old and even though you are still living with them they can not really tell you who u can or can not date, and you have to make that clear to them, i dont know where your from but maybe you should look at getting a room until you can get an apartment on your own. you said your parents abused you, so in that case you really dont need to be there...
2006-08-02 12:48:49 · answer #4 · answered by T@J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off why would you want to be with a man who sleeps with other guys the chance of aids is far greather then with a straight guy. Second what you do is your own business and your parents not wanting you to date this guy is only looking out for your best interest.
2006-08-02 12:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont live with them for a minute longer,what are you waiting for MOVE OUT....do u care if they write you out of the family.I'm mean really they abused you...it sounds like your still looking for 'something' in a relationship with your family,which proberly isnt going to happen...you dont need to answer to these people..its your life.You dont need there 'blessing' sort of speak..to do what you want...sure you may get your heart broken...a straight guy can just as easily do that too, but the thing is..you can mend it.
2006-08-04 00:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by raven jack. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Again i am answering your question next time your parents say anything to you just tell you you like the idea of three way sex! you your guy and his guy that will shut her up!
2006-08-02 12:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by c0mplicated_s0ul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go get therapy. deal with the abuse. then maybe you will have the answer to all of the other questions.
2006-08-02 14:13:12 · answer #8 · answered by Justme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first get out of your parents house then they can't say my house my rules. be prepared to accept that you boyfriend will never be accepted by your family and if you marry he won't be welcome at their home. frankly it doesn't sound like you'll be missing out on much. sometimes you have to take a stand for yourself and what you believe in...................good luck!!!
2006-08-02 17:55:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, you didn't like either my answer or others...do what you want, you do not want advice..what is going on here?
2006-08-02 13:42:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋