Most of his lies are minor but he has got to be taught the right from wrong, good from bad etc. Anyone with personal experience or training in this area?
2006-08-02 12:27:52 · 15 answers · asked by pmac 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
In almost all cases lying is learned from the parents. So, look in to the mirror and think if you use lies when you for some reason don't wish to tell the truth. Change your own habits and he will change with you.
2006-08-02 12:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by BonAqua Identity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well our little girl is 6 and she does pretty much the same thing. What we do is take away a special toy or book until she remenbers to tell the truth for a whole day without being reminded and then we give it back. It seems to work for the temporary. I think that it is a stage that kids go through sometimes and as long as we instill in them that imagination is okay but lying about what really happens is wrong and that when they are asked a question we expect the truth, they will be okay.
2006-08-02 19:33:38 · answer #2 · answered by Leigha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Parenting Children With Love and Logic" says to try two things. First, try saying to the five year old when he has just finished telling you a lie "That was a great story, now try telling me the truth." If he persists with the lie, tell him matter of factly that you don't like it when he lies to you and that one day you might tell him a lie and he will know how that feels. Try something really small like if he asks if he can have a snack, tell him "sure you can", then when he goes to get the snack, tell him "no." Explain to him that you told a lie just like he did the other day and ask him how the lie made him feel.
I used this on a three year old and a 12 year old and it worked for both of them. It sounds kind of cruel, but the real world won't tolerate liars. You need to nip this in the bud in a very loving way.
2006-08-02 19:37:06 · answer #3 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will find that children start lying when they think that disagreeable situations can be averted by it. It is important to remember now that children are quite innocent and require analysis and help with understanding the scenarios which prompt them to lie, rather than being scolded for perceived character weaknesses in themselves, which will become self-fulfilling prophecies when formulated. So, my advice to you would be track down the evil that makes your child tell lies. Could it be that he is a very sensitive little guy who is deeply afraid of certain things? It could also be that he is a born diplomat and can't bear hurting people's feelings (I was like that at that age, and would rather lie than make people sad - part of it was a fear of alienating people enough to lose a friend or ally). So, take the dive with him, find out where the need arises for him, and hold his hand as you explain what's really happening, so that he gets the confidence to say it as it is.
2006-08-02 19:38:05 · answer #4 · answered by Tahini Classic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can explain to him what the original lie caused..or you can go to the extent of saying what lies can do and how you loose trust in a person because they lie. I was watching this movie I forget the title,but they said,"that sometimes you tell a lie so big,it changes your whole course of life."
If you are to teach a child right from wrong,you have to be the key example in his/her life.
2006-08-02 19:41:18 · answer #5 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be your own best roll model and be consistant. Always insist on making the child tell the truth and do not give up. At this age , it could be a passing phase.
2006-08-02 19:33:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whack him on the nose with a rolled up newpaper. Works for my dog!
The moral of the story is that a little punishment goes a long way...
2006-08-02 19:35:12 · answer #7 · answered by tspbrady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes lol tell the story about the boy who cired wolf and in the end say he cried wolf and this time he was not lying and do u know what happend to the boy? hr was vicously eaten by the wolves do u want to be eaten by the wolves u gots to scare him
2006-08-02 19:31:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he tells a lie PUNISH him! dont REDIRECT him. That's how kids learn. Not from reason and "redirection". Be a parent not a buddy.
2006-08-02 19:33:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real answer is that it is a stage and your child will grow out of it by next year.
2006-08-02 19:34:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋