MEN ONLY! Please tell me, if your wife worked a 30 hour a week job, WOuld you help out more??

Question

If you worked outside in the weather, and she had an office job, should men do less at home because of it, and less with the kids, because of the heat and pressure of a job.(by the way he's a welder). He feels because his job is more physically demanding,(mine is mentally demanding).. he shouldn't have to do 50% at least, when ALL i really ask is for him to Pick UP AFTER HIMSELF!

Answer 1

I think maybe you should consider switching jobs for a week. It sounds like maybe you are both having difficulty appreciating one another. Welding isn't just a physically demanding job. There are a lot of things that you need to know. If you think that just because he's a welder he has no brain then maybe you need to show some interest and try to learn more about what it is that he does all day at work. I don't want to say too much about it but It does piss me off when people tell me "Yeah but my job is mentally stressful." I am a machinist. I have an air conditioned job. It is only the second A/C job that I have found in 20 years of machining. I have worked jobs that when I got home from work I didn't make it to the couch. I was so exhausted that I passed out just inside the front door. Considering that people like me do all the lackluster work that makes the world go round. I think we deserve a little more appreciation considering our paychecks don't reflect any. And don't ever get the idea that machinists and welders don't have to use their brains. I currently machine aircraft parts. If you think I don't have to take my job seriously you're crazy. Welders also do welding on some of the assemblies. There are seriously complicated requirements that must be met.

Now I got that out so back to appreciation. He needs to know how much work you do around the house. And then he needs to appreciate it. When people put themselves in the other persons shoes they get a perspective of the other person's experiences. If you could both begin to feel the other person's pain your atitude would probably change from one of resentment to one of wanting to help. Which is what your question is all about. Don't resent the things that he does. Try to go the extra mile. Once he sees how much more you are doing he might start feeling a little guilty and decide on his own that he needs to get off his *** and help. But if you approach him with an attitude of resenting him it will only create hostility. And I have noticed that hostile people are usually not very helpful. I sincerely hopes this helps you out. And everyone remember the blue collar guys out there working in the heat, building the countries infrastructure, and thinking about your safety. Blue Collars may not run the world but we make every single thing that you use. BTW you aren't askin too much of him. He still needs to help.

Answer 2

First I work outside I clean The Grounds Of a Hotel so I know How Hard it is to work in the weather. Now With that Said I think if I was Married and My wife work 30 or more Hours It is only fair for me to help around the house She works just as hard As I do So Yes It should Not matter what a person does If two People work 30 or more hours at a job a way from the home then they should do the same at home it is only fair

Answer 3

although a physical is very demanding on the body a mentally draining job i think is worse i have done both, i am a single dad and have no choice but to be there for my son, your partner will come home tired and annoyed and not want to do anything but he needs and should know that a family is not a job, i bet he doesn't slack of at work when he is tired so it's no excuse to be like this at home
you should tell him this annoys you and explain to him how you feel after work, find out what he thinks he can do and tell him what you think you can do and go on from there
if this doesn't work i don't know what you could do because it means he is set in his ways and he expects you to get use to it

keep reminding him that your relationship cuts both ways and that he helped make the children, he did half the work that night you did the rest for nine months and now it's time he put his time and effort into creating a happy home

Answer 4

My wife work's 35 hrs. per week in an office and I work 40 hrs. per week as a construction laborer and we both do what's required at home equally or if ones more tired than the other we'll pick up the others share. Weekend's we both have off and we'll both clean the house and do what ever needs to be done. No matter what you say he'll probally still be a jerk, but at least I respect my wife enough to help out, tired or not!

Answer 5

My wife is a work at home computer analyst and I work outside the house in commercial construction. I have learned to shelve the male macho image bull. I hve made huge sacrifices for the woman I married 26 years ago. I practically raised my 2 daughters so she could follow her dreams. I learned real quick how to cook, shop, household chores, raising kids, etc,. I came from a home with 3 boys so my Mother did it all. Sharing in this all was and still is the greatest time of my life and still do most of the chores around the house and it hasnt hurt me. I would say the experience was priceless. So tell him to shelve his macho pride and do something nice for the girl he loves!

Answer 6

My wife work 40 hrs a week and i work 40 hrs a week. and no different what it is and we come home together yeah we are tired but we do work hard together to make thing fix and how it works. and we do take care our small children and we help each other alot and made thing better. Why did we get married because we know if we going to make a family we need to work as team work and do everything we can to work together not just one person say i am tired my work more than you do and don't matter it matter if both work it out and do it everyday and that how we make our job easy 9 years now and so still help eachother like team work. that what marriage about work and love and stuff like that.

Answer 7

my boyfriend does this too! he gets home and strips his clothes off because he is so hot from work and then leaves them on the front room floor! I am a stay at home mom. I do most of the cooking and cleaning and all i ask of mine is to take out the trash, do the dishes once in a blue moon, watch the kids so i may go to my moms house to visit and Pick Up After Himself!
I have since resorted to putting his crap on top of all the trash in the can and let him see it. Of course, the first time i did it he got all bent out of shape and freaked out but since then he has managed to keep his clothes picked up.
Now, if you can tell me how to get mine to take the trash out more often i would love it. Ive even put a note on the door at his eye level to remind him but he doesnt see it. grrrrr.

Answer 8

That isn't asking for to much. Just for him to pick up after himself. Honestly he should at least help you out a little. Tell him he is a grown up now and just because he works hard it doesn' tmean his work is done once he gets home. Especially with kids.

Answer 9

my wife works in an air conditioning place and i work in a factory
she works 40 hours i work 54 and we take turns doing the house work and spend time with the kids relationship= partnership

Answer 10

I work outside and sweat my **** off, and my wife works inside. I help with smaller chores, but I still help. If I have the day off I help more than normal.