About 2 years ago a new male started to work where I do. I don't know him very well, but from what interaction that I have he seems nice. We do have meetings that we attend together, teams that we are on, etc. About 3 months ago he started flirting with me. I was completely shocked as there is a 20 year age difference. Fianlly I just came out and asked if he Realized the age difference. He did. We have alot of fun with verbal teasing, etc during work, or on cell phones after. He wants MORE........ YES I know this is true....... He has come right out and said so....... My question is why is he so tempting?????? Forbidden Fruit???
He is married, I am not ...... He has no children, I have one adult child......We are both adults........
2006-08-02 12:17:41 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do respect myself........ Maybe It is a comfort to me that I don't have to get emotionally involved. Maybe I just want the sex from him...........I have been in the wifes position, It's been done to me many many times...
2006-08-02 12:28:33 · update #1
sure i met my husband at work. this october it'll be 2 years....
2006-08-02 12:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by koolcat252002 2 · 1⤊ 5⤋
Two responses.
1: There is a 20 year age difference. . .and both of you are in a "safe" environment by flirting at work (and thinking it is sort of like trying on a potential relationship on for size, which it is not).
2: Office relationships, as a rule (although there are exceptions) is not a good idea, especially if you value your work there. The "exception" is if the two of you are not in the same area or have the same immediate boss. . .and if, after dating (after hours!) it would seem by BOTH of you that this is a good relationship to pursue. . .and the reasons why.
Yes, it feels great to be wanted and appreciated. . .but do not be mislead by your head or heart. . .find an alignment between them, an inner peace, and then move forward with a "response" for this man!
2006-08-02 19:28:50 · answer #2 · answered by MIKEBAYAREA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But He is married, and your both being adults should tell you to leave well enough alone. "Forbidden Fruit is right in this situation", unless you want to become a home wrecker like a lot of younger females tend to be these days. I lost out to a younger whore & she was married too, so you never know what's lerking outside for your better half. Just like you caught his attention being a younger man, you can do the same for a Single younger man, alright.
2006-08-02 19:28:02 · answer #3 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY DO NOT go out with him because he is married. There are alot of factors besides temptation with that. The man has another wife at home, if he is going to cheat on his wife he will cheat on you too. By flirting with you he is making you feel alive but it is so wrong.
In dating someone at your work place, alot of times these things don't work out and you still have to see that person in meetings etc. which can cause alot of office gossip and if one of you start "bad mouthing" the other. It just makes things uncomfortable .
2006-08-02 19:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you two are both adults, thatstill doesn't make it right! He is still married, have you ever stopped to think that maybe he does not have any moral values if he is married, and his wife has never done anything to warrant his philandering? If he wanted to be with you so much, let him divorce his wife. 9 times out of 10 he will not.
2006-08-02 19:26:02 · answer #5 · answered by ladysea8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely do NOT get involved with him. He is married. He is married. He is married. Stay away from him. These type of guys will not be able to give you anything but sex. If that is what you want, then go find a single guy to get it from.
2006-08-02 19:24:51 · answer #6 · answered by missi8301 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't get involved with him if I were you. Remember he is married and you wouldn't want to be in his wife's place. Distance yourself from him in order to limit the temptation, If you have to then ask to be moved or transferred.
2006-08-02 19:44:07 · answer #7 · answered by Desiree S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, you are both adults, so do the adult thing, and leave this other womans husband alone, and go get your own!!
Theres too many home-wrecking people like you in this world.....
WALK AWAY!
2006-08-02 19:28:36 · answer #8 · answered by Katz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two rules I have always lived by: Don't mess with the laides I work with, and Don't mess with the wives of the guys I work with.
Other than that, all is fair game ;-)
2006-08-02 19:25:39 · answer #9 · answered by Shell_Answer_Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a relationship with a married guy has no future !! it will just bring problems for everyone , for you , him his wife , coz if you get really involve emotionaly with him you will just be his lover , have more respect t yourself there ae many men single and available.
2006-08-02 19:24:59 · answer #10 · answered by Dayan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no do not go out with him.....he is married. See, I'm married and if I found out both would be in trouble because you know. Get over it and leave him alone. get your own man
2006-08-02 19:41:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋