My best friend is a thin black woman, my wife on the other hand is fat and white. Im am acctractive white man. I begged my wife to go to dinner with me and my friend and she refuses. She never gets out of the house, all she does is internet chatting and eat. I want to go out and have fun. Now she says I cant hang out with my best friend but I always ask her to come along.
2006-08-02 12:14:00 · 29 answers · asked by soollddiieerr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my wife never leaves the house. All she does is sit infront of computer all the time. Never cleans house. I feel she doesnt care about me or herself.
2006-08-02 12:18:30 · update #1
Hello what does size and race have to do with anything? Sounds like to me you are the one with the problem.
If you really love your wife stay home with her. Your wife IS your best friend. Doh!
I read your other questions and you are such a moron. I hope your wife finds someone who really loves her no matter what her size is.
Candy Girl
2006-08-02 12:18:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is good of you to have asked your wife along BUT the 1st thing you mentioned is how the friend looks/ and how your wife looks!!! If she is just your friend, why do you even have to mention what she looks like?? Maybe your wife feels intimidated by the way the other woman looks, and chooses not to go along because of that. If you keep going out w/ your friend, your wife will either end up finding a trophy man for herself....you know, a "friend" or you may end up w/ a little urine in your iced tea, or some spoiled mayonaise on your turkey club......hell hath no fury like a woman scorned!! Choose wisely, man!
2006-08-02 19:25:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that she doesn't care about you in reality she doesn't care about herself. She is right to not want you to go out with your friend because you are lonely and things can happen between a male and a female in this situation. But talk to your wife about your feelings. Yes, you have every right to want someone that wants to spend time with you and want to do fun things. And you guess it, you need marriage counseling. Also maybe you can find the chat rooms that she goes to and maybe you can be an anonymous chat partner. Good luck.
2006-08-02 19:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she is putting you in a quite difficult situation isnt she? I dont really know you and how ur wife would react if you did go out to dinner with this friend of yours, but my best advice is dont do it. Most likely it will cause problems between u and your wife. Your wife may feel inferior to this other woman and it may be the reason she does not want to join you two with dinner.
2006-08-02 19:18:02 · answer #4 · answered by angeleyez410 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, just maybe, your wife sits around the house on the internet trying to find someone desent to talk to her. You seem to have no respect for her and thinking about yourself having fun. Maybe she's depressed and don't even realize it. Have you cared enough to ask her? Sounds like you want a skinny woman and if so, leave her and go get you one. I promise you she would be better off if you did.
2006-08-02 19:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship with the friend is strictly platonic, then yes- go out and enjoy life. Life is for living, and your wife needs to understand that. Couples forget that they are individuals, with their own separate likes and dislikes, and sometimes it's better to each do your own thing to be happy. This excludes cheating, of course, but if your intentions are good, and you have only a good time and companionship in mind, go for it. If anything it might get her attention and make her think.
2006-08-02 19:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by ?princesshousewife? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like your relationship with your wife is too steady. You love your wife right? You need to figure out what she needs and why she'd rather hang out with cyber friends than you. The only describing word you used for your wife is fat. Is that the only way you see her? My advice is to take care of your relationship with your wife and perhaps make some guy friends. Good luck.
2006-08-02 19:20:23 · answer #7 · answered by ore2nc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? Divorce her and be done with it. Obvioysly you are turned off with your wife and all your other questions are all the same about her being fat etc. Do you even love her? I don't think so. What will happen when she is old and wrinkly? Are you going to have a problem with that. Either talk to her about her weight or get a divorce. There.
2006-08-02 19:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by lifeislove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your issue isn't with your friendship... the bigger problem is the unhealthy pattern your wife has fallen into. Forget about your friend for now and find out what's going on with your honey. When she's healthy again, you'll be able to spend time with both of them with no drama.
2006-08-02 19:26:38 · answer #9 · answered by 2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not ok. You both need to visit with a marriage counselor to resolve some issues. The coldly mention that your wife is 'fat' says that you have a problem with your wife's weight. Seriously, go to a counselor. Good luck.
2006-08-02 19:19:48 · answer #10 · answered by missi8301 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋