I like dont want to tell my mom or dad that I am bi and I dont want to tell anyone in my family but I have already told three people in my family... so should I tell my parents they would kick me out of my house...
2006-08-02 11:52:32 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
the people I have told I didnt mean to tell one of them helped me to discover it and one of them read a page in my journal which I had told her before was fine... but I didnt realize that she would really do it... she talked to me about it and she would never tell my parents but yeah so then I had to tell her husband (my brother) and he was fine with it too all of my family really doesnt like too sell people out so they would never tell my parents...
2006-08-02 12:04:59 · update #1
Dude, I have the same problem, except I'm gay. If their going to kick you out of the house then don't do it. I'm waiting until I move out and am on my own to tell my parents. I think it's cool that you had the courage to tell three people in your family though. It's three more people than I've told...
2006-08-02 12:00:08 · answer #1 · answered by I ♥ Goth Guys 3 · 7⤊ 2⤋
That doesn't make you a loser. If I were you, I wouldn't tell my parents. The thing is that you already told three relatives... I don't think that was very clever, you should tell them all or none (family members hardly keep secrets from the whole family...) if you're so insecure about them kicking you out of the house because of your sexual preferences.
My advice is keep it quiet as long as you can if you can't face your parents. If you have somewhere else to live, do it! What is the problem? If you still depend on them, just keep your mouth shut and your pants up for a while.
2006-08-02 19:01:29 · answer #2 · answered by Babadoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not a loser, everyone go's throught this when they are first comming out, and more than likely your parents already know and are just waiting for you to come clear...but it's like this if your not ready to tell them then dont, make sure you are ready, and make sure you are the one that tells them... bcause even though you've told people that you are sure will keep your secret... no one is perfect and it may slip and believe me you would rather be the one to tell your parents, you wouldnt want them to find out some some other source...and if you are afraid that they will kick you out then wait until your able to get your own or make sure u have a place to stay... i was kick out of my house when i was 16 so i know what you maybe feeling and i've been there.... if you wanna talk more shoot me a emai... cuz i've been there...
2006-08-02 19:20:36 · answer #3 · answered by T@J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to wait until you are fully able to deal with the consequences of telling others. However, it sounds like you have already told others in your family - what assurance do you have that they have not already told your parents?
So if you are sure that your parents would kick you out of the house, and you need this support to live, then don't tell them. Of course if they ask you directly, I would not suggest lying.
A good question to ask if this turns into a big fight - "OK, so now you know, how is our situation different than it was yesterday? I haven't changed any, you haven't changed any, you just know something more about me now."
2006-08-02 18:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your choice to "come out" to family or friends or not. You should wait until you are comfortable with yourself and ready for the different kinds of reactions you might get.
Oh and in a different post you said you were still questioning if you are bisexual or gay, so until you figure it out use the label questioning (if you want a label at all) because bi people have a hard time explaining that they are real (which they are) when questioning people try to use it as a stepping stone. You are questioning till you know. Thanks.
2006-08-03 00:42:33 · answer #5 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not a loser the only people that are losers are people that call others losers.
I think you parents love you and will love you no matter what you sexual preference is. The people that bash you for it and call you names are just envious because you are one of few people who can have their cake and eat it too. If you are comfortable with who you are then the rest of your family should be after all you have changed anything about yourself ! Sit your parents down and tell them. You may be the one shocked of their response!
Have a nice day!
2006-08-02 19:24:37 · answer #6 · answered by c0mplicated_s0ul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you aren't when you are ready if that ever happens you will. I fell in love with a woman that I spent 5 years with and I told my parents after that. I knew that they would want to preach and coach after I told them so I never wanted to hear that and when I finally did tell them I had to exclude my mother from my life.
If you don't want the drama yet or you aren't strong enough or it is just out of fun then keep your business to yourself. They don't tell you what they do in the bedrooms. When you are ready if you need to you will.
Wish you well
2006-08-02 19:17:03 · answer #7 · answered by Kiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell them only if you are ready. And if you are ready and they kick you there are plenty of shelter for glbt kids. Look in your city to see if you have a glc (Gay and Lesbian Center). Or find a PFLAG.......I'm trying to remember what the youth gay association is........its something like SYMLE. Anyways, check around for these organizations, and they can help you. And PFLAG is a good place for your parents to go to meet other parents of glbt. They offer counseling and other such resources.
2006-08-02 19:26:47 · answer #8 · answered by My Optinion Counts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any time "coming out" COULD cause more trouble than not "coming out" you should keep your mouth shut.
There is no reason to disrupt your family to discuss something that is really none of their business. There is no reason to risk being homeless just to tell your parents something that is none of their business.
There is NO rule that demands that you tell everybody all your business. Your sexuality and all that surrounds it is your private business... it's a NEED to know kind of thing.
2006-08-03 01:57:47 · answer #9 · answered by Dustin Lochart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it a lone...no one needs to know what you do in the bedroom..why is this such an issue with you? It is an issue between you and your bed partner, not you and your parents. Your parents do not tell you what they do in the bedroom, why would you tell them what you do? Doesn't make much sense to me. And besides, I would be very surprised if they didn't already know. Good luck
2006-08-02 20:51:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋