If you have talked and talked and the wife is just cold...and there are kids involveed so you cannot separate....Is it not better than having an affair?
2006-08-02 11:45:54 · 17 answers · asked by dude 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would say it's not cheating...unless you take things a step further. Have you tried being romantic (ie. leaving rose petals on the bed)? Spicing it up a little? Has your wife recently had a baby cuz some woman lose their sex drives for a while after having a baby. Maybe she could talk to a psychologist to find out why she is so "cold". Or maybe just try a lot of foreplay, light kisses, touches..even if you don't touch her breasts or whatever...sometimes the thing that turns me personally on the most is when a guy lightly caresses my hair or neck for a long time and in the end I'm practically begging for it.....hope that helps :)
2006-08-02 11:53:03 · answer #1 · answered by Aliyah S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's possible that it may lead to an affair, because this is a temporary fix. If wife is cold, then you need to open her eyes to reality by letting her know how important the lack of is to you. Let her know that there could easily be someone who would willing help him solve his needs if she'd prefer to see how she would respond. (Not telling you to cheat, just use method to get response). This should snap her out of her shell, and if not consider what you want to do for your happiness. Staying in the marriage knowing you will cheat won't help things get better.
2006-08-02 18:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, woman that don't want to have sex with their husbands---well that is a marital rite and sex is part of marriage. If your looking at porn on the internet in order to relieve yourself how is that different from men that look at Playboy magazine centerfolds in order to relieve themselves.
Woman that don't want to have a sexlife with their husbands do not have a right to complain or think it is disguisting if their husbands need to look at a picture of a naked woman in order to relieve themselves nor do I think they have a right to be hurt and feel violated if their husband goes out and has an affair. Obviously, looking at a picture is safer than having an affair.
2006-08-02 19:03:55 · answer #3 · answered by pwdrpuff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with what you are doing. Just because she doesn't want to have sex w/ you, that is a choice SHE made.....that shouldn't mean that you are sentenced to a life w/ no sex! And even if she was having sex w/ you, there would STILL be nothing wrong w/ doing the internet thing! Life would be so much better if people didn't have so many hang-ups about sex!
2006-08-02 19:01:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your kids are the most important part of this question.
If you have tried everything and there is no love in your marriage then end it as well as possible so that you and your wife can move on.
In time, your children can still see healthy relationships for both you and your (ex) wife.
Don't kid yourself, if they are school age they already know they are living with unhappy parents.
2006-08-02 19:12:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends, if you are Christian, the Bible says not to let it enter your mind. Basically if you think or fantasize about another woman it is already adultery. At the same time your wife also has to consider that the Bible says you shouldn't deprive your husband because this will cause him to stray. However, if none of that matters to you then I would say it is better to relieve yourself that way than seeking out another woman because that way at least you aren't having to worry about diseases or an unwanted pregnancy.
2006-08-02 18:53:47 · answer #6 · answered by vanembryzoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation, This is how you can tell yourself if it is cheating or not if you are relieving yourself by looking at porn sites and your wife was looking right at you when you are doing what will her reaction be?
2006-08-02 18:51:43 · answer #7 · answered by George T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be considered cheating. You and your wife need to go to counseling. Because sex is a normal part of marriage unless she is physically unable to have it. Get to marriage counseling asap.
2006-08-02 19:12:59 · answer #8 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO it's not. She should be taking care of things at home. Besides, you are not having physical contact with anybody. It is all fantasy. If she doesn't like it, she needs to put out. That is not the kind and gentle way to put it, but it's the truth.
2006-08-02 19:14:34 · answer #9 · answered by bluesea112 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be better then an affair - except mental cheating is still cheating.
2006-08-02 18:58:41 · answer #10 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋