I want her back?

Question

I was in a long term relationship, and found out she was 3 timing. i treated her really badly when she said she was sorry and wanted to give it another go. now she has found someone else and i really miss her. i realise i love her and i want her back.

we had been through so much together too, like when her dad was beating her and smashed up her phone (a d500 too, they were the best phone out then). also, when we had to go and get her the morning after pill and stuff like that. and sex on the sofa when the parents were shopping.

i know your guna say "bullshit yr only 14". but dont say that! plz! genuine answers only.

also, i cant afford flowers or expensive gifts, and she isn't answering my txts. help me! plz!

Can I just say thank you to all the people that have "answered" this question so far. you have given me the "kick up the ***" i needed. thank you for all the support. i dunno how i will choose a best answer. i will have to put this one to vote!

Answer 1

the grass isnt alway green on the over side

Answer 2

Hey it's time to move on. There is absolutely no reason for you to be waiting about for someone, how has already proven that she is not trust-worthy and that's what it takes for a strong relationship.

I know that a lot of people have been saying that time is a geat healer and it's true, however you have your whole life to look forwards too and at time there will be ups that make you feel great, but the downs will always be there as well.

I would look at joining a club or starting a new activity, get your a*** in to gear and start enjoying what you have.

Who knows the right person maybe just around the corner but you will never know if you don't walk around the corner.

The bit what you write about the sex and the morning after pill does worry me, remember you have been given a great gift by being able to create new life, don't abuse it because you could find that to your cost that you could end up stuck in a relationship that's going nowhere because you didn't think things through enough.

Answer 3

Ok I am not being funny but why do you want this girl back?? If you found out she was with other boys/ men while she was with you then you should hate her, there is no excuse for that.
You may have been through alot with her but you will find that you will go through alot with every person you have a relationship with.
She doesn't know what she wants and hasn't realised she had a good thing. Once she realises she may come back to you but dont make the first move she isn't worth you getting hurt again

Answer 4

I think you're lucky to be out of this relationship, if you can call it that!! There were 5 of you in it from what you say!! You have got to be able to do better than that surely. I think the young lady has serious problems and obviously not getting the right sort of help from her dad judging by his behaviour. Move on, get yourself some support and look to the future. I think your ex will be drifting from bf to bf looking for the affection etc she probably didnt get a home.

Answer 5

You gotta say goodbye to anyone who 3 times you, theres no excuse. Of course she found someone else and she would again if you got back together. You gotta move on. OK she had problems, most people do. If you take her back there'll be more of the same to go through and you'll be a doormat. Certainly don't buy her pressies she should be buying them for you. Look forward to a strong new you without her. All the best.

Answer 6

Let Go and wait awhile/ If she really care for you she will return. I don't know how well you can trust her. She seem some what feisty. are you sure you would like this for a life time? Ask yourself these things before you encourage the relationship to go forward. You may be better off by "letting sleeping dogs lay. Do you get my message? Enough is Enough.

Answer 7

bullsh#~ your 14 an old enuf to move on ...so move on....also you can get nice bunches of flowers from nice gardens...public parks is a good option......broken hearts only last till you meet the next miss Right......and shes just round the next corner..good luck.....oh ..and this IS a genuine answer.
one more thing....you can probably impress some girls with expensive gifts....but you aint gonna keep em or win their hearts.
...if they love you...dandelions would be perfect or even flowers drawn on a card.....

Answer 8

its always hard to get over someone you really loved especially when they are with someone new and yet you are not. I think she has made it clear that its over and its high time you dealt with it. Accept it and dont get someone else just because she is with someone.you will only be truly happy when you do it for you and not for her.Sorry but you have to move on

Answer 9

she was three (oh my god, three) timing you....
the best thing to do is to move on. easier said than done - i know. but its easy if you are really determined. eg. if you hang around in the same area, change it, find a better one. new place.
return, throw or burn all the things that remind her. dont be a prat, just do it.
do yourself a favour and find a better looking girl, then dont go bragging on about her. but if you happen to come across her.. see how your ex reacts.
priceless!!

Answer 10

I know this isn't what you may want to hear but time is a healer its natural to miss her but she has moved on and in time you can too

Answer 11

honey i just want to say she doesn't deserve you if she was cheating on you. once a cheat always a cheat. i guess you must really miss her but the way it hurts now if you get back with her its going to come back again because she is justt going to cheat on you again. move on now and jus suffer once.