How to let go, when there is so much past experiences.?

Answer 1

It's mind over matter, really. Deal with the problems. I find I can't let go when I'm trying not to face the problems. Force yourself to come to terms with it, your part as well as the other person(s) (if that applies). And then allow yourself to feel whatever comes up, give yourself permission to feel whatever it is you feel. Grieve for any pain done to you, get angry, etc. Tell the person you're upset with if it helps you feel better.

But the pain does pass and eventually you work it out in your mind, though sometimes the process can take a while, especially if it's a big "hurt". The bigger the cut, the longer it takes to heal, you know? But I truly believe that I tend to hold onto things when I stubbornly don't want to let go. First and foremost, I have to force myself to come to terms with the fact that I have to let go of whatever it is. Only then can I face the issues and finally let them go. But I've one pain done to me in my childhood that I'm now, 25 or so years later, able to let go of.

Answer 2

You have to let go ... in order to be able to live in the future. If you hold onto everything, then you don't experience life... you are just existing. Letting go does not mean forgetting the lessons learned, you don't want to have to learn em all over again. You just need to put the past behind you and get on with your life.

Answer 3

I'm not sure.

last year when I was in 8th grade, i read a book called homecoming. the book was very interesting , it also had a sequal called dicey's song. both books had to do with a family that went through so much.in the second book , the older sister who wasn't used to it, had to let go of her dying mom while in the process of being adopted. she had so many emotions going around in her head,that she could barely think. some how she found a way to let go. she made herself forget how much pain she was in by simply focusing on her.on her personality and the things that happened to her that were good;though there was a few. I have learned alot from that book on dealing with pain.

I think you should read it. It's by cynthia voight

Answer 4

I've learned that you can't always let go. The past will be the past but it's always going to follow you around. The past is not at rest, any sins you think were committed in the past will try and break out to destroy you.

Answer 5

ALOT OF PEOPLE SAY JUST LET GO, BUT WHEN ISSUES RUN DEEP IT CAN BE HARD AND HURTFUL.PERSONALLY I THINK YOU NEED TO PRAY ABOUT IT. YOU CANT GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE WITH THE PAST IN THE WAY. SO IF IT INVOLES FORGIVING,THEN START WITH THAT.WE DONT HAVE THE RIGHT NOT TO FORGIVE NO MATTER HOW HARD. BE POSITIVE.BE STRONG. MAKE YOUR LIFE WHAT YOU WANT IT TO BE. YOU HAVE THE POWER AND STRENGTH,START TODAY PUT YOUR PAST BEHIND, TRUST IN GOD MY SISTER.YOU CAN OVERCOME I DID.

Answer 6

Forgive your Self for the experiences, without blame or judgement.

Answer 7

moving on is a trip,its not easy especially when you had so much invested..it may get a little clearer if you put it in the perspective of your not grieving for the loss of the person but for what you thought you could have had together.

Answer 8

A little at a time, and lots of practice. Replace old habits and thought patterns with new ones.

Answer 9

I am looking forward to the answers for this question, because I'm wondering the EXACT SAME THING!

:-) hang in there, it'll come (at least, that's what people tell me)

Answer 10

You must forgive.