So weve been like real, real close since high school, then 5 years ago she went to Paris and got married. Weve seen each other every year since usually with her husband (whom I like, by the way) and/or with my girlfriend (with whom I just broke up). But now she's been here for 5 months in a row, without her husband, we go out to bars, movies, whatever, speak on the hone almost everyday, its almost like back in high school and Im like, really confused cuase I feel atracted to her and sometimes I think she may be kind of attracted to me but weve always been like brothers, and she`s leaving again in september, though she intends to come back for good by december (with her husband coming down next year) so... well, thats it...
2006-08-02 11:27:08 · 14 answers · asked by X 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I went through the same thing with my wife. I was actually the best man at her first wediing after becoming friends with her (at the time) boyfriend through her. I actually told them both that I didn't want to socialize as much with them as they wanted because I had feelings for her. Eventually, the marriage soured (within 2 years) and we talked about it and eventually decided to get together. We have been together for 14 years and married for seven in Oct.
So I say tell her and offer to not spend time so much time with her. She should be with her husband. If it happens that they don't work it out, she may approach you but I wouldn't pin my life on it. And it may be better for you NOT to spend your life waiting for something that may never be.
2006-08-02 11:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by Robb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well even tho shes married its still good to tell her how u feel! Dont be ashamed of it...u dont seem like it...but just tell her that u feel a connection with her. And make sure u tell her that ur not trying to take her husbands spot and that u really mean what ur telling her! ok thats the best i can tell u but i hope u good luck!
2006-08-02 11:33:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. She's married
2. You're best friends
3. You're lonely, and she's female and no other woman is paying you as much attention as she is
Are you really ready to risk your friendship just for the sake of lust?
If she really is your best friend, give her the respect that she deserves, cut down on hanging out with her, or better yet, she obviously knows you well enough to help you find a suitable woman.
2006-08-02 12:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by gipsy_queen99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in love with my married best friend for years. We talk about everything. We have also discussed that almost always without fail friends and be forever, lovers are usually temporary. We've opted for forever.
2006-08-02 11:38:08 · answer #4 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're Right!...................... THAT'S IT!
She's coming back with her "husband" whome you apparently have no respect for. There's nothing worse than a friend taking friendship for granted. Find another women that will take up your excessive time so you don't make a mistake and loose a friend and "Your Crush".
2006-08-02 11:36:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be Respectful, Be mature, Be true to yourself. Always treat her like a queen, no matter what her situation is or yours. She will remember you in a good light, always. That will go a long way with her in her mind too.
2006-08-02 11:31:12 · answer #6 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay cool and see what happens. If it is meant to be, it will be. No piece of paper should stand in the way of fate. I wouldn't suggest making any first moves, let her lead the way.
2006-08-02 11:34:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are just doing this because you broke up with your girlfriend. misery loves company..and now you have no reason not to pursue your friend. however you better remember that she is married... and this aint high school. be a good friend and leave it alone.
2006-08-02 11:32:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
convinced. tell her to honor her marriage vows for the sake of her toddler and study a thanks to love the guy she's married to. dishonest on her husband is going to smash her marriage and provides you her toddler divorced moms and dads. She's being incredibly selfish.
2016-11-27 21:48:27 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be love, but don't act on it. Do not give in to temptation.
Not only is your friendship at stake but other people will be hurt as well.
2006-08-02 11:34:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋