hello everyone, well heres my problem, my babys dad has recently started staying out alot more then usual, he usually leaves in the evening and says that he's going out to do this or that ie get money hes owed from a friend, get fags, or fill up petrol or chill with his mates ect. he always gives me a time that he'll come home, and some of the time he does abide by that and comes home on time, but at other times like now for instance he's been out over 4 hours, he did answer his phone when I called him earlier, but is no longer answering, i am very used to him doing this. he went to see his father as he was ill, but the last I spoke to him he was on his way, (please bear in mind that this has happened before) he always seems to have a valid excuse, but every time he does this to me I feel hatred towards him, I feel unapreciated and used, I dont no why. please help me? how would I deal with this? (please bear in mind I have had talks with him to my witts end) thankyou for answering.
2006-08-02 11:05:43 · 9 answers · asked by sweetlikehoney_73 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This guy is not committed to this relationship - he's still in that "single" mode. There's not a damn thing you can do to change it, best you can do is to rely on yourself, emotionally and financially. He won't be there for you. (If he had an inclination to be serious, he would be your "husband", not your "baby's father").
Him "cheating" is just a matter of time, comes with the mindset. But then, if he's not committed, it's not really cheating anyway.
2006-08-02 11:20:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I know how you're feeling... Valid excuses aren't strong enough to penetrate our own insecurities. I think the reason you're feeling so suspicious is because this is a recent change of his behaviour. Well, people change, it's possible. Unless you have a good ground to be suspicious, don't press on the idea that he's being infidel - he could get hurt and frustrated by your lack of trust, and worse, he could come to this conclusion: "Heck, if she doesn't believe that I don't cheat on her, I might as well just do it." Just be alert, look for more signs, but don't lose sleep over nothing - and don't fight with him over this - until you find solid evidences.
2006-08-02 18:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by crystal iceberg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to be honest, I did not read your story. Simply the reason being once a women says "do you think he is cheating" I stop and say YES. You know your man and you know yourself if something in you suspects cheating 9 times out of 10 you are right....sorry...but trust your instincts and do what feels right for you.
2006-08-02 18:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by my1215boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm... the very least is that he is more interested in his friends and "hanging out" with them than he is with being a good father and partner. Pay attention. This will likely now get better. You won't change him. What you need to decide is if this is how you want to live the rest of your life. If you can accept it, good. If not, better get out.
2006-08-02 18:09:25 · answer #4 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If trust is not there, love is leaving... no matter what the reality is, just take it easy as life goes on with or without your half...
2006-08-02 18:12:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't any of that is proof that he is cheating, However if you have talked to him and he hasn't become more considerate of your feeling's then it may be time to move on
2006-08-02 18:11:29 · answer #6 · answered by mrharderson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe he moght be cheating on you. You gotta tak to him about your problem, he should be honest about your relationship.
2006-08-02 18:10:26 · answer #7 · answered by tesciowa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him go. Find someone who really truly cares about you.
2006-08-02 18:09:55 · answer #8 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur just paranoid
2006-08-02 18:10:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋