My Boyfriend is always talking about having sex. But I'm scared that I'll get pregnant. Should i do it or wait

Question

HELP. I don't want to quit school and be cooped in a house with a crying baby.

Answer 1

WAIT!!!!!!!!!! it will not only ruin your life but your relationship as well
and if you are already scraed about the future after having kids then you should be scared of having sex i am 25 and the first love of my life was my bigest and it was ruined from sex please if you lve him don't do it if thats all he wants from you then he is not worth having please prove to yourself you have ambitions in life rather than wants. i promise you it is degrading to yourself and if something happens to go wrong are you sure he will stay with you or will he leave you by yourself

Answer 2

You have totally got the right idea. That is what sex does - creates babies. Please, I beg you, do NOT do something you know you're not ready for. It's not his fault that sex is always on his mind, but if he is pressuring you that is wrong. If he is understanding of your feelings then he is a good boyfriend. You are so right - you don't need to be at home with a crying baby. When your friends call you on a "whim" & wanna go out - you wouldn't be able to. Have fun now. Wait 'til you're ready, you obviously are a smart girl who knows what she wants. You should wait.

I noticed that someone was trying to be helpful by telling you to use a condom "so there isn't any chance of getting pregnant". PLEASE believe that this is NOT true!! Things can happen, the condom can fail, it can break, it can slip off, etc. The ONLY way to be sure not to get pregnant is not having sex. And I am not a parent, lol, it's just a fact.

Answer 3

WAIT!

Look, if you're not ready then you're not ready, and just because your boyfriend is hopped up on hormones is not a good reason to have sex. If he respects you (and if you respect yourself) you'll both wait until YOU are ready.

Remember, if you get pregnant there is an excellent chance that your boyfriend will suddenly find something more important to do than play "daddy". It happens all the time.

Also ... guys think they're always ready for sex, but the brutal truth is that they're usually only ready for masturbation - not the real thing. Tell him to handle his urges by himself or take a cold shower.

Answer 4

you are obviously not ready, pls wait! you wont regret it! wait until you can take responsibility if anything were to go wrong. in otherwords your 18+ and have some1 that can help suport you and a child if u did get pregnant. dont let him talk u into it. simply say your not ready and thats the end of it. the ONLY 100% way u WONT get pregnant is not having sex, you CAN still get pregnant using a condom, pull out method, or the pill. condoms can break, pull out should NEVER be used and the pill is only 90 something % effectiveness.

Answer 5

It's best not to have sex until you are ready, but the main thing is to be careful. It would be best to talk to your mother if you can, or someone who has more experience in life before you do anything. Condoms are a must, but to be on the safe side, perhaps you should seek birth control to prevent an unwanted pregnancy. When you are young, the pressure can be almost unbearable, especially when you're "in love". If you are a virgin, your boyfriend is going to be relentless, trying to be "the first".

Answer 6

There are many methods of birth control, if that is your only concern. Many people have been having sex for years without producing children. But, you have to use the B.C. properly (i.e., take the pill every day, make sure the diaphragm fits properly, etc.) That said, don't rush into having sex. When you are ready you will know that you are ready, and it won't be because a partner is pressuring you into it. ESPECIALLY don't have sex because of pressure from someone.

Answer 7

I don't know how old you are, but don't let anyone pressure you into having sex. It's a decision you have to make on your own... wait until you're ready! If you're not comfortable with the idea of having sex, you're not ready. As far as not getting pregnant, make sure to use protection if you do decide to become sexually active. Either get on the pill or use condoms.

Answer 8

Don't do anything that you don't really want to do! If you don't want to have sex because your'e scared of becoming pregnant or of contracting an Sexual Transmitted Infection than stop right there. If you think you may have sex be sure to protect yourself, use a condom and be on birth control. That is the best way to protect yourself. DON'T DO SOMETHING JUST BECAUSE YOUR BOYFRIEND SAYS ITS A GOOD IDEA!! DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO!

MORNING AFTER PILLS ARE NOT A PERMANENT SOLUTION. GET ON BIRTH CONTROL IF YOU'RE HAVING SEX AND USE CONDOMS EVERYTIME!

Answer 9

first of all, do you love him? if u do and he feels the same way then think and talk about it seriously. there is always a chance you will get pregnant with or without protection. it all comes down to your choice, but i say wait until you are sure about your feelings about each other. if some reason u do get pregnant you also have to make sure that he will man up and take the responsibility as a father. good luck

Answer 10

The answer is simple. Even though you use protection that dosent mean you wont get pregnant. SO with that said, if you are ready to have babies and raise them to your best ability, not go out with you friends, miss prom, get stretch marks, pay medical bills, not sleep through out the night, possibly loosing your BF (and by him pressuring you seems as though he isn't responsible to begin with so don't expect him to stick around and help) and not have a childhood any longer, then yes go right ahead. If you answered no to anyone of them then NO YOUR NOT READY!!!

Answer 11

How old are you? You sound too young to be having sex already...
But regardless, I would suggest telling him no. And just keep it to everything except sex because the last thing you need is a child while in high school and college.
If you do, go to planned parenthood for birth control and make him wear a condom. SImple as that.