Well, i dont understand why everyone always says they love everybody. I'm only 16 and I've loved one guy. but I've had so many people tell me that they love me, I think they wouldn't even consider going out with me if it wasn't for my looks, but guys tell me I'm sweet and fun.. n everything, but it's like, how do u love someone over that, yea it's a great plus, but its not love. My friends always say they love all their boyfriends, or girlfriends..n i just dont get why people say they love everybody. granted, i know not everybody does that, but im just saying for the people who just say it without feeling..im not sure if this makes sense, but its been buggin me for tha longest time...since all my friends decide to constantly change their names when they write notes.
2006-08-02 10:51:07 · 20 answers · asked by mahbabesgrl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ok get this straight..love isn't a matter of age, the one guy i love, i still cry over him, i've never felt that way about no one, so you dont have to be 30 before you find love, but i dont understand why people constantly look for it, love is a special thing to me, because its the most special thing to have. I know there is a difference between loving someone and being in love, because I've loved one person, but somehow i dont feel like we'd make it if we ever tried getting married, so that makes me doubt that he's my true love, and for my friends..i hav one friend who has been engaged 3 times at the age of 16..she lust everyone? and i know adults are the same way..trust me..my dads been married 6 time, and everyone he dates he asks to marry him.. i think he feels he cant be by himself. its just he's known this chick for 3 months now, and they got married a month ago..and love is something you feel, its not a matter of time, but i know my dad hasnt loved everyone he's dated.
2006-08-02 11:14:21 · update #1
There is a difference between loving someone and being IN LOVE with someone. As for your friends maybe that is the closest thing they have ever felt to love so they think they are IN LOVE but what they really are is IN LUST. And the guys just want to get in your pants.
2006-08-02 10:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by Buttercup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is one of the most over used words in or language...and a high % of the time there is little or no emotion backing it up, when it's spoken...
It's a "feel good" word...we want people to dig us so if we tell them we love them, hopefully they'll say it back (that boosts our ego and gives us warm fuzzies)...or perhaps we want someone to do something for us, so we tell them we love them to help sway (see "manipulate") them into doing what we want...I mean, how can you deny someone you love? right? *rolls eyes*
You are a perceptive young woman to have noticed how much this goes on...and it's not just a teen thing, it happens frequently in the adult world as well...
There should be some kind of penalty for using the world "love" when you don't feel it...it's much too precious an emotion (when it's real) to toss the word about when it doesn't actually exist...
2006-08-02 10:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow your a very wise young person for seeing this. People have many differnt reasons for the I love you's. One is that they truely believe it and then later down the road they realise they never really loved the person. It may be that they cared for the person but wasn't in love.
Some will say I love you because the other person said it first and they don't want to hurt the other persons feelings which is quite silly. The chances of two people falling in love with eachother at the exact same time and feeling the same kind of love is hardly possible. Each person is differnt and will fall in love at their own time. I am not saying two people can't feel the same kind of love but I am saying not at the exact moment.
Some people will say I love you to try to get the other to have intercourse. I knew this girl once who slept with my boyfriend at the time. He had her convinced that we were broke up and he loved her. After he got what he wanted he never spoke to her again.
I am sure there are other reasons for I love you's that I am not aware of or just can't think of right now.
2006-08-02 11:08:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The word "love" gets thrown around WAY too much around younger people. I'll tell you the honest truth. Nobody under the age of 18 "Loves" anyone else. Boys lust, and girls are infactuated.
Until you find a relationship that actually involves trust, honesty, and hard work, you don't love.
2006-08-02 10:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by c_w_b_21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
true love is a consistant good attitude towards life and it respects it's creatures. It doesn't let feelings dominate its reasoning. In my belief, our god is superior lest anyone make themselves superior in a relationship. If it's not a god, let it be something else we share, like goals or something. Friendship is the best way to keep a relationship strong. Love can also make you enemies feel remorse. Saying yo love someone is worthless if you don't prove it with your attitude.
2006-08-02 23:41:08 · answer #5 · answered by Cyber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love use to be a word that meant special feelings toward someone.
It's used so much today, it's lost it's uniqueness.
Sex used to be kept for the one you really love and marry.
Now it's done with anybody. Saying you are loved is used as a bait to get sex, I think anyway.
2006-08-02 10:58:17 · answer #6 · answered by lukn4sumpn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Got me...I worked with a woman who declared herself "in love" with every man she slept with. I guess it made her feel like she wasn't a tramp (nice word for it).
Lots of people think they're in love...or say it because it seems to be "the thing" to say...or in hopes of having sex.
Don't get suckered into that. It sounds really nice to hear, but you have to take the time to look for the real thing...not the generic "love".
2006-08-02 10:57:13 · answer #7 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's such a trend now. A lot of kids feel like they have to say "I love you" in order to show affection towards one another, and if they dont, then they dont really like them. It sounds ridiculous, but its so true. Those three words have sadly lost their meaning in the world now.
2006-08-02 10:58:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dunno why they do that, but I'll tell you one thing: It really gets on my nerves!! People just throw around the words I love you like a basket ball. i've been in love once. And it took me a while to even tell that guy........love is too deep for the people to throw those words around. They can cut so deep when they're not said out of pure honesty.
2006-08-02 10:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love has so many meaning and for who.like father and mothers love is another.sister and friend love.thats why dont think about it.u must happy so many people they love u an dcare about u that mean ur really a good girl
2006-08-02 10:56:56 · answer #10 · answered by cute sam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋