I sometimes just feel like letting loose and going out and partying, so I do. Unfortunately, this has been for 20 years. I am 38. My father no longer talks to me, I am on the verge of divorce, my close friends hate me..I lost my little dog, etc.....I have tried everything possible to stop this behavior. rehabs, jail, to no avail.I want my family, friends and animals back..help
2006-08-02 10:32:57 · 8 answers · asked by ashleymarie1953 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you actually sound like you may be close to a point where you could change. try writing a letter with all these thoughts and feeling (while sober) and send it to all the mentioned loved ones. Then post it on your refridgerator door so you see it everyday. Start doing healthy things, find some things that are fun and healthy, maybe even productive. There are so many things that don't involve getting messed up that all you have to do is use your head. Sure they are not as easy as pouring a drink but you see where that got you, now make some good choices. The best thing is that it is in your own control. You can't expect people care for you unless you care about yourself.
Start eating healthy, take walks, go swimming, join a fun group activity, don't drink alcohol anymore, try Ice Tea or just water. Take your vitamins, learn about mental health issues and human psychology....check out Prevention Magazine, it's a good one with lots of easy tips for better living.
You may have turned the corner, don't stop now, you are about to make the best move of your life!!!!
Stay focused, it only takes TWO WEEKS to break a habit. Check them off on your calander, go day by day, minute by minute. guard your mind and don't even let those other thoughts come into your head, move forward don't slip backwards. you've already been down that road, not it's time to take the high road to a better future:)
Best Wishes!
(and don't stop trying, if your friends and family see you are moving in a positive direction they will be glad to see it;-)
2006-08-02 10:49:34 · answer #1 · answered by rooster2381 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A little self-control would seem to be in order here. It sounds like you don't have very much of it and look at where it's gotten you.
It also sounds like you don't care very much about your spouse, close friends, little dog, etc. or at least that's what you have been demonstrating. This is commonly referred to as the "All about Me" syndrome.
If you encountered someone like you, how would YOU react?
Ask yourself: What would a good spouse be like? or a good close friend? or a good owner of a little dog? That is who you would need to become.
If you keep doing what you have been doing, you will keep getting what you have been getting. In order to realize improvement, you have to change something.
You also have to feel that you deserve to have the things you want, or your behavior will not allow you to have them.
You can turn this around, if it is what you really want, and is not just the despair of the moment. If you want to know how you are doing, look at yourself in the mirror, you will get your answer.
2006-08-02 17:57:37 · answer #2 · answered by Lord L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you have the power to change this .How do you see yourself in thirty years a party animal that is old and Grey,or a good daughter,friend,and proud pet owner.Start with your dog it will listen and never let you down then work in the other people listed.Its your life don't waste the rest of it.
2006-08-02 17:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
could you possibly have an alcohol or drug problem? I suggest you go to a treatment center for an evaluation. Realizing that you need help is the first big step. Run rather than walk , you are spiraling downhill. good luck
2006-08-02 17:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by sophie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So if you realised that you have to change that's the first step. Perhaps you should try to get them back on your side by admitting that you were wrong and that you want to change yourself. If you really want to change you have to be strong and think about other people's opinions and feelings - but not so much to the extent that they rule your life.
2006-08-02 17:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mordent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how u feel just try sittin down owith themand tell themhow u fell and how bad u want them
2006-08-02 17:39:27 · answer #6 · answered by ~*~ SMITH 06 ~*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't help u the only way to help yourself is to do it yourself and inside
2006-08-02 17:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by candybabe1414 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to LDS.ORG There are people there that can help.
2006-08-02 17:37:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋