best infant day care....?

Question

my son is 7 mo. and i would like to go back to work..i need help finding the best day care....what would you suggest?
we are in dave,fl

Answer 1

If you can afford it, stay at home with you're child. You know that he is getting the best love, care, and attention because it would be coming from you. Does your income majorly offset what you would save in childcare and gas to and from childcare and work?

Answer 2

Important consideration - 8 months is when a child develops separation anxiety - this is when it first fully understands mommy is a separate being. This is a period when the baby feels very vulnerable and is expecially stressed by mom's abscence.

NICHD has been studying the separation of children from their mothers for decades. What they've learned is that if a child enters day care before age 3, and for most kids, before age 5, they are seriously damaged by this. First, the attachment between mom and child is damaged, the dad's approval of the child is damaged, the child's IQ is damaged, the child's social skills are damaged. The child is at great risk for depression and anxiety.

And, guess what - these results hold true even if daddy is the caregiver, if a full-time live-in nanny is provided, or if the day care is of the highest quality.

Why? Human infants evolved to need their mother's arms and mother's milk to grow optimally. Separating from mom floods a baby's brain with stress hormones, impairing the child's ability to learn and to regulate its emotions.

In addition, and perhaps most critically, the baby is currently forming his view of the world. Is the world reliable, a safe place, can i trust? Now picture him in day care, screaming for mommy (oh, they'll lie and say he doesn't) and you never come. What does he learn about you and about life? What does he learn about his effectiveness to get his needs met? What does he learn about what you think of his needs for love and affection?

Do you really want to teach your poor dear baby all those things? Last point, day care is far harder on boys than girls. Please don't do this to your child. He didn't ask to be born; he desparately doesn't want to grow up in an institution with a mommy who schedules in a few 'quality' minutes for him every day.

What you will miss by abandoning him to day care is immeasurable. My friends and I who actually raised our babies are always amazed by how totally detached from their kids our working friends became, how utterly unaware of children's needs and rythyms they became.

Day care is a lousy way to grow up. Up and Out in the rain, out in the freezing, out in the sweltering, never with mommy to share excitement, loyalties to the primary caregiver (who must become 'mommy' if she's gonna do a good job.) Why would you do this to your kid?

Answer 3

I live in new york, and i have worked in about 13 day cares and when i tell you disgusting i mean ewww. I tell everyone i know not to put their child in day care they dont care for your children. nanny's work better the child gets to stay in your home where he is used to the inviroment. In ny you have to keep a log of what time you changed the baby and if they were wet or had poops and they girls i worked with would put they changed him at 3pm and he was wet and he wouldnt have even been changed. In my opion i would sedn my child to any daycare. There is no family member to watch him or at least witha nanny you can put cameras up to watch what goes on during the day thats what my boss does to his 3 kids

Answer 4

I also work in a day care I live in a small town I would not want to take my baby to a daycare I would take them to a home setting where there is a low ratio. I know where I live, you can call your local DCFS or wellfare agency and they have a whole list of licensed child care providers, there are also referral agencies out there. Also the cost of a home day care would probably be a lot cheaper, where I work it is more than double than what I paid for a baby sitter out of her home. Just make sure they are licensed and please ask people who have taken their kids to them.

Answer 5

any center that has a web cam....we are in texas and our daycare has them....1 it makes the caregiver cautious that they are being watched and 2 you get the peace of mind that your baby is being well cared for. also you can check on you states website for any center that has bad reveiws. good luck.

Answer 6

the goddard school!