I found out that my ex-boyfriend (who is still one of my good friends)..is GAY....Now I don't really care, but I do like him alot..and it hurts that he didnt tell me...What should I do...Ask him...Ask his partner...Wait for him to tell me...Let it Fly??...help me!....any advice would help me now!!!
2006-08-02 10:00:19 · 7 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i didnt have sex with him!!!...im 16!!!..thats not what its about
2006-08-02 10:10:53 · update #1
Ask him gently why he didn't tell you and let him know that he doesn't ever have to be afraid to tell you anything. If your friendship is strong it will stand up to anything.
2006-08-02 10:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself, you don't care. Just continue the relationship as if nothing happened.
If the subject comes up, act like its nothing. Its not your reaction and rejection your friend is afraid of it is others that are homophobic.
This does not mean it is your job to set it right. All you have to do is be a friend, that also means keeping your friends secret even if you're not suppose to know it.
2006-08-02 17:08:09 · answer #2 · answered by John G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him come to you. Maybe he's nervous about telling you.Wait a couple of days, and if he doesn't say anything to you, then you confront him. Tell him that you know, and you're OK with it (if you are). Tell him that you still care about him, but let him know that it hurt your feelings that he kept it from you. Then, let it go. Don't hold it over his head. Just be cool about it.
2006-08-02 17:07:20 · answer #3 · answered by halo27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself an HIV test very soon. If he is gay, it's likely that you were not his only sexual partner while you were together. The rest doesn't matter.
2006-08-02 17:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him because if he wanted you to know then he would tell you. Dont do anything because for 1 thing he will do it in his own time, and secondly you dont know that your source is reliable.
2006-08-02 17:05:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time to come to you as a friend, he may still be a little embarrassed about it but, in time he will be fine ...stay his friend!!!
2006-08-02 17:08:39 · answer #6 · answered by JACKIE M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and see why he have not told you.And then try to be there as a friend for him.
2006-08-02 17:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by Happy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋