Have had their wives tell them that they love them,but are no longer "in love " with them. What did you do? Move on? Or did things get better?
2006-08-02 09:50:54 · 17 answers · asked by Cliff H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is to ironic !! I have basically been typing the same thing...But it is my husband that said he no longer loves me nor in love with me... So about a month ago I ask him to get out...He has not been in love with me for a few years now,and actually I felt it,but I suppose I was in DENIAL !! I say get out..There is someone for everyone,I truly believe that..I haven't found that person yet,but I am just sorting through my life right now and trying to get things going...But ask yourself why would you want to stay?If they don't love you then the marriage means nothing...Everyone deserves to be loved..Don't be like me and think you can change it and change the way she feels because you wont..I tried,didn't work,that is the part you call denial.. But as humans we keep trying,I sometimes think animals are smarter than we are..All I can say is yes it hurts,but staying will only hurt worse..Do you still have a intimate relationship??
2006-08-02 11:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by He~loves me~NOT 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As any romantic relationship matures, it's perfectly natural for the "romantic" aspect to wane. And it's only rather immature people, overly influenced by childhood fairy tales, who believe the rapture of passion lasts forever.
"Love" as we understand it as goo-goo eyed teenagers, if it's real love, will always grow into more lasting and even more fulfilling emotional facets: friendship, the shared joys and miseries of parenthood, true life-partnership.
High poetic "Love" is a delightful illusion we can surrender to from the very first date. A loving, supportive and trusting partnership however? THAT has to be worked on. Patiently created by two, committed people.
I heard a great quote once: "As a marriage matures, it's no longer about two people gazing into one anothers eyes, it's about two people looking in the same direction."
And if none of that helps, fvck 'er. Go have a few pops and bag a little action on your next business trip.
;-)
Good luck, man. It may be the second oldest line in the book (..."just not IN love with you anymore.") but it hurts to hear it, nonetheless. She still gets an 'F' for originality. Oh! One last suggestion...
Have your Cable carrier delete 'The Lifetime Channel' from your channel package. Women get the damnedest ideas watching that nonsense.
2006-08-02 17:06:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on cause you can not make someone want you so you need to thank you for being honest and get out the way.Cause if you stay and hope things get better it will for a little while then it back on again.
2006-08-02 16:56:07 · answer #3 · answered by Happy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry...maybe she needs to grow up! Marriage isn't about ending because she feels like she doesn't love you. She made you a promise and you did her! Go talk to someone with or without her! Keep ur head up high!
2006-08-02 16:57:10 · answer #4 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
C'mon guy... that is classic womanese for "we have to talk about the relationship." Talk about it with her, she's bored and wants her fiance back, the guy she fell in love with.
It happens between 5 and 10 years of marriage... at least once. Try talking to se what she wants.
2006-08-02 16:55:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing to be alarmed about. It means she has seen the other side of you and now knows you are not perfect. When she was in love with you she thinks you can do no wrong.
2006-08-02 16:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know the answer.. If you find out, tell me too.
My wife says she loves me, but sometimes it seems she does nothing but express her high expectations. (For example, she explicitly tells me that I have to tell her that I love her every time I say goodbye to her on the phone. What's the purpose, if it's forced?)
I'm not sure if I love her anymore, either.
2006-08-02 16:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by Yes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't argue. Don't question. Don't question. If you can figure out how a woman's mind works you will be able to make a fortune by selling the secret.
2006-08-02 16:55:42 · answer #8 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I am not a husband--but i would say that she is telling you -you may as well move on because it is the IN LOVE that counts!!
2006-08-02 16:55:50 · answer #9 · answered by wancarol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry honey, but once she feels that way, it's hard to get that "in love" feeling back...Never experienced that myself, but I know lots of people who's gone through it.
Life's short - be happy.........
2006-08-02 16:55:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋