I am a single woman and I have been sleeping with same man for over two years. In the beginning he was looking for a relationship but I just wanted sex. A year after we started sleeping together he got married. We are still sleeping together and he still tells me he loves me. I know its wrong but part of me hopes his marriage won't work. We live in a small town and he is with me almost every night so its inevitable that she will find out. Should I be the one to tell his wife or should i wait until it gets back to her?
2006-08-02 09:47:48 · 20 answers · asked by Tiredofbrainlessmorons 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't want to be in a relationship with him. I know that it would never work out. I just don't think he is happy. He got married for the wrong reasons (financial).
2006-08-03 07:46:57 · update #1
That is just wrong. I think you will always be the other woman, no matter what he tells you, I mean c'mon look what he is doing...he is stringing you along while he has a wife too. In other words, he has his cake and is eating it too. It is not your job to tell his wife, unless you suddenly feel guilty for being with a married man. When he got married, that is when this should have ended. He's an *** for cheating on his wife...and you just should not be involved in a situation like this. I will never understand why women get involved knowingly with men who are married. There are so many men out there, why do you have to mess with someone who is already committed. I would end it if I were you.
2006-08-02 09:53:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow. Life is trashy. You aren't in diapers but let me dumb it down for you.
Let's look at the facts...
(1) He left you to marry another woman because he doesn't give a sh!t about you or your sex.
(2) If he was there for financial security he'd of already left her for you and stolen all her money BUT something's making him stick around (perhaps love, good sex, worthy partner than you'lll ever be).
(3) He is scum like you for doing that to his wife, however, no kuddos for you because you dug your own grave and still haven't been enlightened.
(4) If you're not looking for a relationship why ask this stupid question?
Leave him be, he is happier without you.
His "wife" will find out soon enough, hopefully not to the STD treatment clinic.
Don't be stupid, insecure and needy. If sex is all you need you can find it elsewhere with SINGLE men, or hire a male hooker. There's plenty around. Don't forget to make him wear a condom!
2006-08-04 10:58:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to step up and get out. He doesn't really love you. If he loves you like he claims he would never have married this other woman.
Your his cake. He doesn't have to deal with you on a realtionship level. It's simply sex. And he is gonna tell you everything you want to hear so you will continue to sleep with him. Your his snack.
What do you supose he tells his wife when he is with her? I bet if it comes down to you or his wife he will choose his wife. HE HAS MORE TO LOOSE THERE. Everything he has!
Most all men do in that situation.
Plus you never wanted a relationship anyways.
You may lust for him or even care but you never really loved him or you would have gotten serious with him when he first asked you. Not to mention he wouldn't have ran off and got married.
Respect your self!!! End his game! Next time he calls tell him no. Tell him it is over and you can't sleep with a married man!
Tell him you want a real relationship not just sex. There are plenty of other men I'm sure that can help you in that department if you want it that bad.
Could you ever have an honest relationship with him even if he divorces? Do you think he would stay faithful to you? He's not to his wife now!
I mean seriously do you ever wander if there is more than just you and her? On nights that he isn't with you do you know for sure that he is with his wife? For all you know there could be 2 others. He did it to her he sure as heck will eventually do it to you. Once he is settled and the relationship becomes more than sex he'll start looking for just the fun again.
Put yourself in his wifes shoes for just a moment. How would you feel? What if you was his wife and she was the mistress?
One thing is for sure eventually all cheaters get caught.
If you want to tell her hoping they will split up and he'll come running to you. That is your choice. Even if he comes I don't think he will stay long.
I think she deserves to hear about it. But coming from you thats just wrong. You need to tell him to tell his wife or your gonna find a way to do it yourself. Let's face it he not gonna.
Send a letter through the mail addressed to her. Don't tell her who you are or even that you are the affair. Just tell her you know who she is and that you thought she should know about her husband.
Then stand back and see what becomes of it. But end it with him immediately. Don't answer the phone or door. Let reality have time to set in for him. Don't be the rebound.
I'm not you. But i can tell you my mom had this happen to her. My mom's world was shatter. My dad screwed around on her for years. All the sixteen years of marriage. He claimed to only have one mistress but actually had 5. She gave him chance after chance but he still went looking. And he never changed! In fact he married his mistress and he complains everyday of his life what a mistake she was. And tells us the grass is'nt greener on the other side. That sex was just sex with these other women and that it was only exiciting because it was a new face. and that over time they weren't exciting anymore. And he never loved them and he never will that his heart will always belong to my mom. Because there was more to her than just the sex.
Find you someone who wants all of you!!!!!!
I hope this helps you. Goodluck
2006-08-02 19:40:34 · answer #3 · answered by rockn75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you are the "other woman". Well, if you read my response in your other question, then you already know how I feel about that. I hate, loathe & despise "other women". The day he said I do is the day you should have cut it off - whether he's happy or not is just your excuse. I sincerely hope that some day you get what's coming to you, that you get what you deserve.
2006-08-04 08:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question for you is why are you sleeping with a married man? Do you really think he loves you? This isn't love....it's just sex. Both you women should look else where for a man.
2006-08-02 16:53:43 · answer #5 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you go ahead and tell her and see what she does to the two of you oh yeah do you think he will want you after that.Your nothing but a home wrecker.WHO place is it that you tell the wife,its not your place.Women like you need to hung by a wipe for the whole town to see what you are doing..I sure hope there are not children involved in this.
2006-08-02 17:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by bllnickie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a cheating bastard if he is sleeping with you and found another woman to marry in the meantime. Dump him and find someone who will be just yours. You aren't being fair to her or you. When it finally hits the fan, watch out.
2006-08-02 16:56:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LMAO!
Your in for a world of trouble and hurt. He married HER because he obviously didn't want YOU. Moron. Just what the world needs, another whore chasing another woman's man.....
sorry, but YOU ASKED.
2006-08-02 16:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! Save it for the Jerry Springer Show.
2006-08-02 16:52:56 · answer #9 · answered by therandman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somebody needs to tell her. I think it should be the dog your sleeping with. He is fooling and using both you and his wife.
2006-08-02 16:57:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋