My ex is getting married in 12 days. However, I am not happy with my husband and there is something missing between us that was never missing with my ex. My ex was very immature 7 years ago when we were together, but he is very different now, and on top of that, he still has really strong feelings for me that he is dealing with himself. I found him on myspace and was just saying hi. We started emailing each other and then he called. I just found that he still had feelings for me about 2 months ago and have been talking to him everyday since. We live in different cities, but I went to visit him and we had a great time! I was trying to see if the feeIings were really still there and they were. I really don't want him to get married unless he is sure he really loves her and not me. I know its selfish of me because I'm already married, but I know that it sucks when you aren't really in love with the person you marry. I know its a choice he has to make but it's driving me nuts!
2006-08-02 09:40:11 · 8 answers · asked by Ohboy!! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wanted to add that my husband and I have not been getting along. He has been edgy and cranky for about 5 years now. He snaps at me for no reason. He also never wants to have sex. He knows that he has done this and has apologized but I'm just not in love with him anymore. I have told him everything about my ex. He knew that I was going to see him when I was out of town and he knows that I talk to him. He also knows that I still have feelings for him. He still wants to try to work things out, but I dont' think it will.
2006-08-02 10:12:52 · update #1
It is a complicated situation,your already married.
That is the one thing that is holding you back from
being free and chosing to be with someone else.
If you are truly unhappy,then tell you husband,
and get a divorce.Until then your Ex is about
to move forward by marrying another woman.
Sounds like he is just as confused as you
are.Then again,he could be playing games
with you,and getting one last moment in
with you before he marrys.Follow your
heart and do what is best for you.
Far as your Ex he needs to make
a choice as well,quickly before
he marrys.If he follows through his marriage
date then there's your answer.
2006-08-02 09:50:31 · answer #1 · answered by lostgrandma1967 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
struggling with over stupid stuff in a wedding ceremony is amazingly commonplace, yet when you're literally not prepared to attend to it because you sense like you deserve more effective constructive and there aren't any children in contact, then i imagine you've already made your determination. He lied the way he did because he knew he ought to spoil out with it...and he did for awhile, yet now you've got here across some different person. You were prepared to publish mutually with his cr@p till you got here across yet another guy. It feels like you're basically completely performed including your husband. It would not sound like you prefer to artwork at it anymore because you sense like if he lied all that aspect before, then what's he going to lie about next? he's advised you that he needed to cheat on you with someone (which became worry-free on his section), notwithstanding that's probable basically come to the point the position you purely can't take it to any extent further. And who ought to blame you in spite of each and everything the craziness that you've experienced? Your hubby may choose both of you to stay mutually, yet he needs to maintain in mind that that's too little too late by technique of now. i imagine he's widely used with that deep down interior, yet he's feeling like he's being replaced. i imagine it should be wonderful in case you need to be unmarried for a short at the same time as so that you're literally not overly at a loss for words on your new relationship. sturdy luck!
2016-10-15 10:50:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The woman always comments on her man's weak spots but then decided to stay you should know that we change!!!!!From bad to good if it goes from good to bad then both know it's quitting time,however it seems that someone ran the other off.Both of you should've stayed together cuz know both of you are lying to the ones who may be(just maybe) in love(THE REAL LOVE.!!)with you but they will never get what it is that you holding in for your ex.You're a cheater is what you and he are,i say this because what you're doing(have done) is the how I'm being done but she thinks I don't know about.(The trips outta town to see her ex and s*&^t!!)I say you two should show the world your true colors!!!Stop playing behind your mates back.Stay Lucky!!!!What do you think the ones you are with are thinking??
2006-08-02 09:59:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone... The "feelings" he has for you are obviously not strong enough for him to reconsider the marriage. If you spend your life hanging on to the past, you miss out on the present and the future. Work on your own marriage, and don't wreck his.
2006-08-02 09:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just took the "on" ramp to Heartbreak Highway.
Get off at the first exit you can!
2006-08-02 09:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by Hermit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is bad because two people would end up getting hurt really badly. i think that this is a decision that only you and your ex can make.
2006-08-02 09:52:19 · answer #6 · answered by bumblebee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to work on your marriage and give hubby a real chance,let your ex move on thats what you did,,,give him the respect of letting him go
2006-08-02 10:53:37 · answer #7 · answered by bllnickie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay Angelina (Jolie)
2006-08-02 09:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by RIA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋