they both agree they are not suited but good friends, and their relationship is convient and it's too hard to break-up....so they just get on with their lives...
but she always wonders if they are wasting thier lives with each other, as they could be spending their lives with someone they truly love. She's thinks they are together because it is too hard to leave each other both financially and emotionally.....She's ask my opinion but I never know what to say...What do you think of their situation?
2006-08-02 09:29:26 · 22 answers · asked by applecheeks 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If they really are good friends, then they should work on the rest of their relationship to make it better. Friendship really is the basis of a sound marriage. The rest can be worked out.
2006-08-02 09:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think each is absolutely wasting their lives and the life of their spouse. This is a case of sheer laziness, yes its hard dividing up a home, since they apparently don't fight and just ignore each other they have no motivation to make it right. They are probably both just surviving their days and that isn't living. What will happen here is one will meet someone else they are interested in and there will be a sudden frenzy to end the relationship and get rid of the other. Its kind of silly to wait for that when they both know and acknowledge the facts and right now they could settle everything with calm heads and reasonable minds and could actually help each other. This will implode eventually, its like seeing a train coming and figuring you'll wait just a little longer to get out of its way for no other reason than its just easier not to move right this minute.
2006-08-02 16:43:26 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask this hard ask question "what is she doing wid him?"
now when u dont love someone and neithet does he but u both compromising on the level that u two staying together just beacuse u two have a need to then u are fooling around...maybe u are so so so selfish to realize that the guy u are wid (ofcourse i am meaning ur friend but using th eword u to explain situation from a girls point of view) is also needing his life...if th egirl thinks she can not offer much to a guy in a relationship then dont waste his time and pliz the guy same message to u. let go move on...go where someone appreciates u values u and at the end of the day make someone happy....dont bottle up the relationship thinking u are happy and who knows drowing how many dreams of ur partner....another thing for onece become a human being...if u cant offer much love and affectionate to someone then pliz dont hold their lives...get the hell moving..everyone derves a bit of happiness be a begger or a king...all want something out of a relationship ..all want when they reach home someone loves them ...cares about them so move on move on....
2006-08-02 16:42:00 · answer #3 · answered by Vinny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is a reason that they got married in the first place. If they want out of it just like that...then they really aren't honoring a promise they made to each other 8 years ago. Perhaps they need to fall back in love with each other? I would strongly suggest that you be completely, positive about this. There is no thinking about being with someone else. They have already promised themselves to each other. I would tell her to go talk to a counselor with or without her husband. Maybe it's just the 7-8 year hump. They don't want to regret it later. Just tell her to at least try counseling and see if helps. What would it hurt?
2006-08-02 16:38:45 · answer #4 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that they can, should, and will work out their relationship problems on their own. We strangers can't possibly know how their relationship is doing. Even a good friend can't really know what's going on in another's marriage. Just the fact they've been together 8 years says a lot. I suggest you be a friend. Listen, share a cup of tea, cry on each other's shoulder, and hope for the best. Be a friendly ear, not a marriage counseler.
2006-08-02 17:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother has lived in a similar situation for 13 years. He always says there are worse things than living with your best friend.
2006-08-02 16:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, In my personally I don't think that there is "the one" out there. Marriage is just an arrangement of too people who fit emotionally and financially, so she's doing fine.
2006-08-02 16:38:04 · answer #7 · answered by Pressie Lee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is an ideal marriage with a man and woman who are friends and respect each other. The romantic love they think they have missed is only a fleeting thing and if there is no friendship when it ends there is no marriage.
2006-08-02 16:51:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, they need a divorce. why stay married of unhappy??
one day one or both of them will cheat on the other and then what?
ive been married like that for 16yr and its miserable, wish I had the courage to leave back then,
tell her: "she has the courage to leave, and be happy on her own" and she can do it now, or she will regret it later.
I have.
2006-08-02 16:37:21 · answer #9 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is not always easy,why wouldn't she want to be with someone who truley loved her.Easy is not always right.Tell her to search her soul and think about what she really wants out of life,to be with somebody she doesn't think she is in love with or someone that could be rocking her world.
2006-08-02 16:36:26 · answer #10 · answered by coolkid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋