Ever since I was little my dad always told me that,women don't trust women,men don't trust women.No one trust women! It has always been in my mind,so thats why im asking.I don't realy understand women,so I don't realy understand my father.Can anyone explain my fathers comment?
2006-08-02 09:23:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Your dad has apparently had some very bad things happen to him, to make him feel this way about women.
I've had some past bad experiences, too. But, I've realized "not all men are the same" type thing.
You have to really look hard to find an understanding, caring, trustworthy person.
My man completely trusts me b/c I have nothing to hide, treat him with total respect, return his affections and above all, do not give him any reason to not trust me. I feel the same about him.
Good luck! This would be hard for you if that's all that's been drilled into your head.
Take your time, find the right partner! Know "what you want" in a partner and don't settle for less!
That's what I did and ny b/f, too. That's how we ended up together, I guess! AND very happy with trust that has taken time to develop.
Another piece of advice, "Actions speak louder than words!" This is a very true statement!
GOOD LUCK!!!!! Hope my answer helps you!
2006-08-02 09:32:11 · answer #1 · answered by penwrite5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was very wrong of your father to drill that comment into your head because that will forever shape the way you look at women - and treat them! There are untrustworthy people all over the world - male and female - and I'm sure a lot of women would say the same thing about men - to never trust a man. I am a woman and have never in my life intentionally screwed someone over, I don't talk crap about people, I'm not after men for their money, none of those typical things you hear men say about women. There are a lot more good ones than there are bad ones, believe me. Most people are generally honest, it's just the bad few that ruin it for the rest.
2006-08-02 17:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by Jylsamynne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, remember this saying ...
"if you cannot trust anyone, you cannot be trusted".
While there are many stories about people lying and deceiving others, there are good people in this world.
How would you recognize good people?
(1) promises that are made get kept
(2) high bar for moral standards, not even petty crimes are tolerated
(3) treat everyone with respect
(4) takes care of others/strangers and help out whether asked for or not
(5) does not require credit or recognition to help out
(6) "give without asking for any reward".
You father must have met the wrong type of women. It is the company you keep that determines how you will eventually trust someone. If he is unable to explain any past events that lead to this feeling, it must be someone who had betrayed him.
Never bring anyone home whom you cannot trust.
2006-08-02 16:34:33 · answer #3 · answered by r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he had a bad experience with a woman or several women, like having his heart broken, and began to think that about all women. But there are plenty of trustworthy, nice women out there. Have you had a mother figure in your life at all? You should try to seek out a female role model, like a teacher, or get a Big Sister (a mentor) through the Big Brothers and Sisters club, and soon you will see that not all women are untrustworthy.
2006-08-02 16:30:46 · answer #4 · answered by frenchfri82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is all about communication. I woman may said she kind of like something and a man will hear she really like something. She was just trying to be polite. But eventually the cigar smoke,the wrestling matches,or the fishing trips get to be to much and they
tell you they never like them in the first place. To the man this was a deception and there fore the woman can not be trusted.
To the woman,she had done all she could to be pleasant.
2006-08-02 16:41:01 · answer #5 · answered by always a friend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your dad was Generalizing.
Obviously there's some women you can't trust just as there are some men...
but there are plenty trustworthy ones out there
2006-08-02 16:29:01 · answer #6 · answered by Cina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your father is really saying is that HE doesn't trust women and HE doesn't see anyone else trusting women. He is generalizing a sex and that's generally wrong.
2006-08-02 16:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey hun....this coming from a woman that was married at 17 and has celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary this year i would have to say that's not true....sure this world is full of people you can and can't trust but that's the way its always been....that still dozen;t make it right for your dad to selfishly lead you to believe that and possibly cause you to never find that right person for you....just because he had a bad experience doesn't mean you can't have some one....hope this helps..love daisy
2006-08-02 16:35:04 · answer #8 · answered by crazy_daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to put the woman to the test over a period of time to find out if you can trust her.
Vice versa, for the preceding answer.
2006-08-02 16:29:39 · answer #9 · answered by Davie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinon is that your father had propley had bad experianses with women so taught himself not to trust them. Yes it is true in some respects but not in all... Nobody can understand the oppoiste sex so dont worry about not understanding women. Hell most of us dont understand our own sexs too... ITS NORMAL... But please dont worry over trust as its something that people have to earn...
2006-08-02 16:34:58 · answer #10 · answered by gotta_be_gnome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋