if you no longer love your wife, should you stay just for the kids?

Question

No...things are fine..no fighting...yelling...etc...just a lack of wanting to be with her..she's more of a roommate

Answer 1

No. They will sense that you don't love each other and set an example for them. You and your wife could also end up bitter and the kids would see that too.

If you do divorce, you just have to make sure the children come first and they know they are lovee by both of you.

Answer 2

No. Staying in a unhealthy loveless marriage isn't doing your kids any good but harm because you will be damaging their concept of what a marriage should be.

You know you don't love your wife and you probably show such to her, why would you raise your kids in such an environment.

Sometimes staying can damage a child mentally if the environment is abusive, arguing all the time. lack of affection, and other unhealthy issues that your kids can witness.

I rather have kids raised in a healthy environment were they see too people loving each other anything short of that will create a problem and the kids deserve better.

Answer 3

In my experience the answer is always NO. Everyone might say that as long as you two get along then you should stay together but there is going to come a time when one or both of you will find someone new and want to see what that will be like and the longer either of you wait to leave the harder it will be on everyone involved. Part ways now while everyone is being civil and able to get along versus later when you might possibly be at each others throats.

Answer 4

Did you love her to begin with? I don't think people fall out of love. I think that they mistook love for lust.
Unfortunately, most people will say don't stay for the kids but it has proven that children suffer no matter whether they live at home or not by the fact that their father left because he didn't love mom.
It takes 100 percent for both people to make it work. Can you say that you have given 100 percent in all areas?
I can't suggest what you do. You have to live with whatever choice you make and the consequences that they have on your life and your families life so you have to decide.

Answer 5

That is a deeper question and not so simple. Why do you say that you no longer love her? Is it attraction, sexual dysfunction, has she put on weight, does she spend too much time at work, do you, is her attention focused on the kids and you feel ignored . ........ so many questions! You need to be asking yourself different questions before you consider your future. Staying "for the kids" puts a terrible burden on a child.
Get your own head straight before putting that responsibility on your children. Seek counseling and remember that the grass is not always greener someplace else.

Answer 6

Kids need to be brought up in a loving enviroment because everything they learn they learn from who they are around and how those people act.It's not always a good thing to stay together for the kids and if you don't,at least be a big part of their life.Please don't fight in front of them it can be very damageing to them.

Answer 7

You have to know why you DONT love her anylonger.
Why is that? What has changed? Your a family you worked hard to build this together. Stop and think of her and what she has meant to you as a wife, lover, friend and Mother.
The kids will do what they have learned, since you taught them.
You two work things out. Talk to her, she cant read your mind.
See ya

Answer 8

Success in life seems to depend upon one double-barrelled question: "Were your parents married? Did they stay married until you were at least 18?"

Children of divorce are spectacularly less likely to be successful iun life than chidren whose parents are married. Notice I didn't say "happily married."

My parents were divorced when I was 18. My two elder brothers and I did much better in our lives than my three younger brothers -- night and day. My younger brothers would have been much better adults had my parents stayed married.

So I want to encouage you to stay married if you can possibly stand to do so. I wouldn't encourage a divorce unless you were childless.

Answer 9

No. But all circumstances are different. It depends on whether you can still get along and lots of other, personal things. It is a personal choice you must decide for yourself

Answer 10

so u see her as a friend, and that's importing in a marriage. so why don't u just continue along those lines, you might b surprised @ the out come. just try that way u can look back with no regrets.