i think im bi...?

Question

i mean im attracted to SOME girls, but only a certain type.
its kinda weird
more like
70% straight and 30% lesbian rather then 50-50

im pretty confused and i mean im going into high school and dont want to make it a living hell with rumors going around everywhere about me. i no its not something to be ashamed of but i just want to survive.

any advice or help ?

Answer 1

hey I just found out that I am bi a little while ago and I had never even looked at a guy sexually before... I am only fifteen but I found out I was bi by letting myself be open minded to being bi. I never was before that because my mom is an insane phsyco freak who thinks any insight from ones soul that is part gay is a horrible hellish thing... but yeah shortly after I learned I could make my own descisions I found this guy that I really really like HE IS SOOO HOT!!! his name is josh... :D but yeah I totally have the same thing where I am 69/31 :D so yeah dont worry things work out in time I have only known 100% for a month...

yeah your friends if they are your friends shouldnt spread rumors about you... it is bound to happen with a few people dont worry about it though... they shouldnt be able to get under your skin you are just starting out they shouldnt care about it unless they are bi too :D and if any of them give you trouble you should ask them about why they are so concerned about your sexuality... and stuff it is actually quite effective... :D peace

-crack-

Answer 2

For the moment you probably are bi-curious, you may even be bi-sexual, if after you try it you continue to like both sexes, but sweetheart everyone of us...bi, straight, gay, or lesbian has a certain "type" of person that we are attracted to. Are you not attracted to a particular type of guy( short, fat, tall dark, etc.) ? The advice that i would extend to you is that if this is a thought that you've been having every since you can remember( a long time), then depending of how old you are( I don't condone under age sex of any kind) then I say to carefully explore the possibilities. Please be just as careful with a woman as you're are with a guy, be extremely selective. Then after that you'll know within your own mind if it's something that you'd want to pursue long term. By the way.there is no such thing as 70%/30% of anything, you either have a preference for one, both, or the other. Good luck!

Answer 3

Ok, coming out to yourself as bi is the first step. You may want to wait until you are ready to do the "coming out" thing at school. It's fine that you feel more 70/30 then 50/50 because it's different for each bisexual. But if you do have those kinds of feelings (relationship wise feelings and sexual feelings) for both girls and guys then you're bisexual (not straight or a lesbian) but it's all only labels.

There is a good book called "GLBTQ: The Survival Guide for Queer and Questioning Teens" by Kelly Huegel.

There is also a good web-site by the HRC about coming out as bisexual and the myths you may have to deal with. I'll link it. And you could try to go to a local GLBTQ youth group for support. Much luck.

http://www.hrc.org/Content/NavigationMenu/Coming_Out/Get_Informed4/Coming_Out_as_Bi/Coming_Out_as_Bisexual.htm

http://www.youthresource.com/about/youth_group.htm

Answer 4

hey
well, being bisexual doesn't mean that you have to like guys and girls EQUALLY: 50/50. You may find that some days/weeks/months etc. you're finding yourself more attracted to guys... but then some months you're attracted to a lot of girls.
Sexuality is fluid. Just keep an open mind and dont worry about defining yourself yet. Eventually you'll be able to trust your feelings and be with someone you really like.
Just keep the doors open to straight/bi guys and gay/bi girls (so maybe you could be friends with people of all sexualities) and you may meet someone and fall in love!

no worries okay? And if you dont feel comfortable telling people in highschool dont. just wait til you've figured yourself out a little more.

Answer 5

You're a little too young to know that yet. I say go with traditional gender roles. Once you're about 25 years old you'll truly know what your orientation is.

More than likely, this is a phase you will outgrow. Not only that, being bi/gay is sort of En Vogue these days so there are people who try it out and then, to their shock, they don't like it. The people I know who truly are gay do not come to that conclusion until they are well into their adult years.

If I were you, I would not experiment with the same gender until you are 25, out of school, out on your own and really have a strong sense of self.

Answer 6

Are you attracted to ALL guys? Probably not. Just because your not attracted to all girls doesn't mean you're not bi, but then again finding women attractive doesn't mean that you are either. You are at a very confusing age. It's natural for heterosexuals to have homsexual thoughts or feeling and still be straight. Just use your best judgement and you'll be fine.

Answer 7

I know you are young, but I always say look for love. True love knows no gender. Find someone who treats you as you deserve. Hold your head up, because words are just words. The lame enlightened people are not worth your time. Try to find a couple good girlfriends who are as confused, or more confident, and band together. Safety in numbers. I thank the gods that I am no longer in high school, I imagine it is hell. Be true to yourself. Good luck.

Answer 8

You are just young and discovering yourself. No you are not bi. You are just confused by those who are trying to push homosexuality on you and others. You are just a normal girl. What you are feeling is friendship and caring for others. This is quite different than a relationship between a man and a women. It is not homosexuality either. Don't let others push you into the world of homosexuality. It's not you. It's a dark and cruel world. I hope you don't find yourself heading down that sad path.

Answer 9

i think the best thing for you to do is just experiment. i mean i know you are still young but that doesnt mean you have to engage in anything sexual. you can tell most of the time by a kiss. the way the kiss feels and the way the other person is with you. i was in a similar predicament. i was only 12 and some guy in my class said he fancied me and i wasnr sure and so i tried kising him and it TOTALY wasnt for me. im probly the staightest person i know. i love women and thats all there is to it. id probably be still wondering just now if i hadnt done that tho. 100% woman for me. guess you should just try it and see if that works?

Answer 10

So what, and don't tell anyone.... Shhhhhhh! People are ignorant are you willing to take the chance? If you're going into High School, Just going in, You're too young to be sexually active anyway. Wait and shhhhhhh!


and don't shhhhh because of shame, shhhh because you are weighing the good in telling against the bad in them knowing.

"You have no control over the way people are going to choce to treat you. The only thing you have control over is how you are going to react."

Balsthar Gracian