My bf and I have been fightin on and off for the past four months. A lot has to do w/ my emotional problems and feeling low. And him not compromising to the relationship (everything is his way or the highway).
I really do love him and want to be with him forever. We have a lot of good times but I am starting to think the bad times are out weight the good ones.
How can him and I work out our problems and move onto a loving, happy, healthy relationship. I dont want to break up or have a break.
2006-08-02 09:14:45 · 21 answers · asked by MsLysa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Can this relationship survive this???
2006-08-02 09:19:40 · update #1
Who can help you with these problems? Professional counseling can help, but it sometimes is pricey. Sometimes a good friend can act as a counselor- listening to both of you, offering ideas and not taking one side over another. Another idea would be to get a book from the library about how to make your relationship better. Some of them even have little exercises you can do together to improve communication.
Best wishes!
from a grandma-aged person
2006-08-02 09:21:44 · answer #1 · answered by PeggyS 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How about counseling?? You can check out the on line system for great programs, but you need to get help for yourself first, you say that you are having problems you need to find out what is bothering you. Let me tell you a little something darlin, there is NO his way or the highway.. I think that you are very young,and very forgiving towards him, it's time to take time for yourself, If you don't there will be no relationship at all. Take care of yourself.
SMILE and LAUGH they are both good for the soul.
2006-08-02 16:31:49 · answer #2 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself why do you love him. If you are not happy in the relationship, move on, don't let this guy ruin this time of your life. You have the rest of your life to find the right guy, one that will repsect you enough to compromise in the relationship. No compromise reads no respect, you deserve better.
Stop blaming yourself, sometimes relationships just don't work, move on.
2006-08-02 16:20:34 · answer #3 · answered by Steven K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know this type of situation bc i have been there. the way you feel about yourself has a lot to do with what you are going through. you should see a counselor to work out your emotions. and with that you will find strength and clarity to make the right decisons. if you have emotional problems he should be there to support you if he isn't then he is using your problems for his gain and it sounds like he likes to be in control of the relationship. you will only be unhappy if you continue like this and possibly end up with more emotional problems if you don't work out the ones you have now.
2006-08-02 16:22:19 · answer #4 · answered by needanswers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
moving on may be your only option.... if he is unwilling or cant compromise or help you then maybe he does not think you are worth the effort..... have you tried to get medical help ? any help at all ? dont put the total burden on him..... you are responsible for urself and your health and happiness, NOT him.... look inside urself and ask what YOU need to change and do to make yourself better and well, then you can worry about the relationship........ if you are not happy and healthy then the relationship does NOT stand a chance......... God bless
2006-08-02 16:20:00 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to compromise...one issue at a time without adding any to get back at each other...make a point to not end your day together on a bad note...even if unresolved be civil and say I love you and want to work on this some more...good luck.
2006-08-02 16:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to compromise, things should be 50-50 in a relationship. talk to him about your feelings. if that doesn't work, go see a therapist. you must determine if you're able to patch things up with him or if you're better off moving on. it is possible to survive this but your happiness is way more important. good luck.
2006-08-02 16:26:43 · answer #7 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly telling you he is not wrong, he is making you feel high esteemed and the moment you start feeling strong about yourself, no one will love you more than this guy. He loves you a lot sugar!!! try to be strong and stop feeling low... masochism never lead you to anywhere
2006-08-02 16:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by too_unconditional 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit him down and talk to him and if he would rather turn down everythin u say then a parenty he doesnt repect ur wishes the way a guy should! i kno guys dont usually do evrythin u ask them to do but most of them will be nice enough to do at least a couple things ur way!
2006-08-02 16:26:40 · answer #9 · answered by hi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave and start fresh with someone else. There are way too many fish in the sea to not be happy and stay with just one.
2006-08-02 16:20:24 · answer #10 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋