Good choice went to bad destiny? How is that possible?

Question

Many girl are charmed by some males and they choose them by their free choice (even when they do not know at their age what is to chose). Then after a several years, such male (good choice) starts to beat her or drink or insult her. Then she is desperatelly looking for true love but invain.
There are millions such girls in the world. Because of what? Because of their freedom to choose and their good choise.
Any comment?

Answer 1

If you look at the life behind these girls, you may not be surprised to learn that they grew up in a household where their fathers beat up and insulted their mothers and/or fathers that drank too much.

Girls who grow up in this type of household situation will almost always choose a man just like her father. Most of the time, she does not even realize that this is what she is doing in choosing an abusive husband. She has made this bad choice because something deep inside her mind "recognizes" something familiar in this man she believes she loves. It is a very sad cycle.

The answer is education. Alcoholism is a disease, but it doesn't just affect the one who drinks too much. It also affects his or her family and, especially, the children.

Abusiveness is a pattern that has to be broken through education, too.

The most difficult part of getting the breaking the cycle of these illnesses and behaviors is getting people to recognize them because no wants their family to shun them and this is often what happens. Once one family member becomes aware that the drinking and the beating and insulting is wrong and begins to try to convince other family members that it is wrong, it's very common for the person who has recognized the wrongness to be ridiculed and rejected by the rest of the family.

A lot of these behaviors are, unfortunately, cultural, too. There are countries where it is still acceptable for a man to be drunk and beat his wife and children. So long as he goes to work and brings home a check, he is considered a man and a provider. These cultures also are more private than American culture, I believe, and they keep their personal problems to themselves.

I don't think their freedom of choice has too much to do with it, really. I think a girl's family could just as easily make such a mistake in arranging a marriage for her because if the father has these behaviors, he is not going to see any wrong in them, even if he chooses for his daughter a man as horrible as himself.

And, where you say "...she is desperately looking for true love but in in vain?" Until she learns and recognizes the reasons for her bad choice and until she learns that she is worth much more, she will usually continue to make the same poor choices.

Unfortunately, we cannot fix others; we can only fix ourselves.

Answer 2

It means we aren't always emotionally equipped to make the best choices for ourselves. I think most women will tell you they had at least one "bad boy" in their lives. I think we believe that if we love them enough, they will change...or the same person that turns abusive can often be very romantic and exciting to us. It is important to know who you are and who you are with and we often ignore our red flags when things don't turn out as we wished. We learn from it and move on...and learn the only person we can change is ourselves.

Answer 3

i think you right but they only follow they heart and it bc of the guys girls have nothing to do with it it men false bc they act like nice person to get what he want