2006-08-02 09:09:21 · 8 answers · asked by raspberrynaledo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honestly, you should not need to justify your pain to anybody because of what you have experienced. It is not your fault you were the victom of emotional abuse. Now, if you are looking to make people aware of the fact that someone is being abusive towards you, all you should have to do is tell them about it. If they do not have the compassion, or human decency to believe you, and want to try and help you, perhaps it is time for you to look for new friends.
Emotional abuse is sometimes far worse than physical abuse for the simple fact that it does not leave any noticible evidence for others to see. The "scars" that come from physical abuse can be more damaging, and longer lasting than any bruise or physical injury.
Growing up I was constantly mentally abused by my father. He told me on a regular basis how I was nothing but a dissapointment to him, and that he just did not like me. I know the pain of mental abuse, and I truely feel bad for anybody else that has to put up with that nonsence. I don't know if I ever escaped the abuse, as a matter of fact, I'm now 36 years old and I currently see a theripist to deal with depression that is all rooted in my terrible childhood. I guess I just have learned to "put a happy face on" for the rest of the world so that nobody can really tell the pain I still harbor deep inside.
I just realized that I really did not give you a real concrete answer on how to deal with this problem. All I can do is wish you luck. If you ever want to chat to a sympathetic ear on this subject, you can feel free to e mail me.
Take care, and God bless.
2006-08-02 09:41:41 · answer #1 · answered by jam961 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sort of... I left an emotionally abusive husband after 8 years and his abuse turned physical but haven't completely escaped it because I still have to deal with him because of our two kids. It is hard there are going to be people who think your making a big deal of nothing but the scars are real just inside. It makes you have low self esteem and doubt everything and everyone but you can do it. You should not stay and be treated like an object with no feelings and be "owned" rather than loved.
2006-08-02 16:24:16 · answer #2 · answered by JustWant2B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I was married to a man who was quite often emotionally abusive. If you are being emotionally abused-LEAVE. How do you justify to others? YOU DON'T! Your family and friends will no doubt support whatever you do to escape a bad situation. If they do not, oh well. You have to do what is best for YOU.
2006-08-02 16:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I once dated a guy that was extremely emotional and verbally abusive. The fact was that everyone around me knew it and was telling me to get away but I had to see it for myself.
The people around you probably already know as you have probably changed as a person because of the abuse. However, you could have kept it hidden well. Those that love you will believe you.
Good luck!
2006-08-02 16:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suspect you feel everyone sees how damaged you feel, and I'll bet it's hard trying to pass for "normal" when you're feeling so crushed. And that's draining, too, which makes you feel even more victimized.
But most people are too wrapped up in their own worlds, which are as complex and troubled as anyone else's (including yours) to notice your stuff.
Having said that, let me ask you this: Do you require other people to "justify" (your word) their quirks or however those unseen scars, those issues in their lives, manifest themselves? I'll bet you don't, so why do you feel called upon to account to others?
Or is there something else operating here?
There are no easy answers, but just try not to compound problems by unnecessarily complicating your life. Try to simply -- and that's not as easy as the suggestion implies.
2006-08-02 16:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by macguffin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. When I left the abuse I realized I no longer have to justify anything to anyone. Good luck and God Bless.
2006-08-02 16:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to justify anything to anyone. No one deserves to be abused, it's a good choice to move on. If "other people" don't understand it, they need to get over it and MTOB.
2006-08-02 16:36:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I hate to say this, but it really no one elses business what you went thru.
If theyre your friends and family they will understand.
Just tell them what you want to tell them, and be honest about it.
I went thru emotional abuse for 23 yrs.
No one new and the still dont.
see ya
2006-08-02 16:17:44 · answer #8 · answered by Quelynn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋