we have been friendsfor 16 years and share a home.when he is not in a relationship i am expected to be there ,go on holidays,spend time in and share everything and i admit we have a great time, then when he meets the love of his life,usually on line,i am allowed to pick up my life again.our home becomes a glorified hotel and i often get caught supportng them.if i refuse to cook for them,clean,shop etc my life is made hell! i am bullied or emotionally blackmailed int staying in my room so they can have some privacy.my friend is a very good manipulator,are all gay men like this?then when it goes peak tong i am again expected to be there and drop my friends as he doesnt like them.i want to be free but how?
2006-08-02 09:08:46 · 4 answers · asked by bubblesl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I really don't think this has anything to do with him being gay so much as it has to do with him being selfish and inconciderate. Just because you live in the same home, doesn't mean you have to go on vacations and hang out together all of the time. You need to have a sit down with him and tell him how you feel about the messes, the hotel feel, you being used, etc. Good luck.
2006-08-02 09:25:09 · answer #1 · answered by jtj 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should just be real with him let him know you have a life too support him when you can and when you cant let him know dont beat around the bush because he might not get what you are saying be straight with him if he's a friend he'll understand if he dosent drop him like he's hot. you just can't keep dissing your other friends over this one think about how they might feel. just like you will feel once your gay friend finds another man. do whats best for you because you dont sound happy please your self before pleasing someone else you may love this friend but love yourself more
2006-08-02 16:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by kia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in control of your life. Slap him silly and leave. You only live once and you don't want to waste it on loosers like that. If you want me to take care of those gays for you, just let me know. I'll set them straight!!
2006-08-02 16:22:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
set limits n stick to em
2006-08-02 16:21:12 · answer #4 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋