What shall I do?Financial support from ex for son is not in bank account?

Question

Let me explain,my ex and I have come to a mutual agreement between ourselves that he will provide £200 a month support for our 22 month old son.He asked for my bank details and said he would set up a standing order out of his account into mine.He claims he has done this but can't remember what date he set it up for each month.Told me Monday he thought it was the 1st or 2nd of the month.Have checked my account and the money is not there so when he text me to let me know how our son is(he has him overnight tonight)I text him back and said it still wasn't in my account but I would keep checking over the next few days.He knows his son and I are reliant on this money at the moment as I have to wait for any other financial assistance ie (tax credits etc) to be awarded.What should I do.He has not text me back.

I'd just like to point out I have a job,I work part time.I do not work fulltime as I actually want to spend as much time with my child as I can,but may need to look at full time work if our finances don't improve.Currently I only earn £387 a month and pay all my own bills,have no tax credits,housing benefit or anything at present and my rent is due.I supported my ex all the way through uni then as soon as he graduates and gets a good job he leaves us.Comments like "get a job" are both insensitive and unhelpfull and I would appreciate it if you can keep those types of comments to yourself as what I actually need is proper advice here.Thank you ever so much.

Jizzmopper L that little rant was directed at you.I have read some of the answers you have given to other peoples questions and the questions you have asked yourself and all I can say is you disgust me and I think that the yahoo answers community would function better if you were not in it.

Answer 1

you prob need to wait a day or two yet. if he set it up for the 1st or 2nd of the month it will take 2 - 4 days from that date to reach your bank account through BACS. i know you need the cash now but if he is telling the truth then it prob won't reach you til thurs or fri at least if not the start of next week.

There is no point in you ringing his bank cos under Data Protection Act they can't tell u anyway. If it is a standing order then your bank won't have any knowledge of it til it actually hits your account.

unless he is prepared to give you some cash to tide you over i don't think there is much else you can do. if it doesn't show up after the time has passed then you need to go to your solicitor. if he is telling the truth then you will have a fair idea when to expect it next month

Answer 2

Call him, don't text him and tell him you want to see the paperwork proving he made these arrangements, no way in hec any ex would be getting my banking information, thats just setting yourself up for trouble. I'm in the US so I don't know how things work there but here we have an agency that handles child support enforcement, then THEY take the money directly from his paycheck and forward it to you. Getting the answer to what date he set it up is a simple matter of checking the paperwork or calling his bank to find out, if he can't come up with an answer its because he hasn't done it and is trying to string you along. I seriously doubt that someone isn't going to recall the date they chose to have a withdrawal from their account made, that could make for some pretty sloppy record paying, he is lying.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Ask him again until you get a answer, and if it still doesnt show up in your account find out why, and if no results come of this then file for child support, that way you have a better chance of him not forgetting and depositing, that money. I'tll do it all the time! But do it all with grace, its financial support you and your child are intitled to.

Answer 5

Yes, people like to jump to conclusions. You don't have a court order so you're probably screwed, I don't know where you live but I'd advise you try to get something ordered. But, I have a court order for 480.00 month child support, been in effect 2 1/2 years, and I have seen a grand total of $300.00. So do the best you can and make sure you don't NEED the money cuz chances are you won't see it. My attorney told me this way back then and I didn't listen to her but I should have. We barely get by in spite of my having a GOOD full time job and a S/O who pitches in when he can (we DON'T live together). Good luck, and God Bless.

Answer 6

I would go to your local child support agency they will set a certain amount which will most likley be more than what your recieving now. They will take directly from him and put it in your account. It takes very little time about a month and you dont have to worry about a situation like this. Go to google and type in your state and child support agency and you can apply online

Answer 7

Can you not find out with your bank if there are any arrangements set up?
Otherwise ask your husband for proof. If he cannot supply it he is lying!
In the UK you can apply for maintenance through the CSA but its only 15% of his wage after tax (I don't know if you are better off with his arrangement) but at least its guarenteed, they will back date it too!
Don't let him get away with not paying!

Answer 8

I understand you completely - was in exactly the same situation myself.

Tell him BLUNTLY that you are desperate for that money and unless it becomes more reliable you are going to have to take him to court to make sure it is in your bank on a regular basis.

Congratulations on trying to be so amicable with him and on working so hard (mother/job etc)

Good luck

Answer 9

Tell him he needs to contact his bank and find out when he can expect that money to transfer to you. If he can't come up with an answer, tell him he needs to hand you the money until this gets straightened out.

Answer 10

I would go to his bank with him and have him to ask them what date he set it up for. Also if it's a legal agreement you can take him to court for the money.