2006-08-02 08:49:08 · 17 answers · asked by shygirlelm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It is almost impossible to do that if he is still into you romantically. Just be friends is usually a big lie or a big joke...even if both parties can handle seeing the other with other bf/gf they may continue to harbor deep seated feelings. Overall it is kinder to separate your lives completely so each person can heal and move on with their lives.
2006-08-02 08:54:13 · answer #1 · answered by The Grand Inquisitor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooooooo, crossing back over the line is a hard thing to do. The answer is that you can't, ...UNLESS you both have decided that is what you are going to do. AND in order to make that decision, the two of you have to be completely honest with each other and you BOTH have to want the same result. If either of you has a different agenda from the other, then it won't work.
I don't know and you haven't said, but if you are wanting to break up with your current boyfriend but remain "friends" because you think that will make the break up easier, it won't. It will make it harder. If you are breaking it off with the guy and he doesn't want it, you do him no favors by trying to still be his friend and buddy. It's like holding a steaming meal just out of the reach of a starving person. How would you feel if roles were reversed - the guy was breaking it off with you but you didn't want the break up - you still loved him - and so he hung around and was friendly and a buddy but just never anything else ? Come on, admit it - it would drive you nuts. AND, more importantly, you would never move on because it would be impossible that - given the way YOU felt about him coupled with the fact that he was still around - he would not eventually feel the same way about you.
If it is over for one of you, it is over for both of you. Takes two to say "yes" and only one to say "no." The best way to be friends is to break cleanly - move on - and when the hurt is over and you both have evolved into new relationships, see if you can be friends then.
2006-08-02 15:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for starters dont ever use the line.....lets just be friends. guys hate that and they will hate you for it. if there was any substance to your relationship you guys will probably stay friends after the break up... but dont expect him to hang out with you immediatly afterwards..... wether you like it or not hell probably need a week or so of drinking beers with his guy friends and telling everyone what a ***** you were
2006-08-02 15:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by Mikey S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-02 15:52:39 · answer #4 · answered by patrick k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u don't. from experience i can tell u that its not possible. the only thing u can do to TRY to make it easier is to take some time off apart so u can get ur feeligns straight and then be friends, but ... it's not easy.
2006-08-02 15:52:50 · answer #5 · answered by dvl_n_dskyz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard, and I don't think it hardly ever works. If you were good friends before you were dating I think you have a better chance at friendship.
2006-08-02 15:52:47 · answer #6 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit him down and let him know that you feel that you all have a great friendship, but the relationship is dead, but you'd like to still be friends
2006-08-02 15:56:30 · answer #7 · answered by ndnyabl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant. Once you are together in that way, it is hard to remain just friends.
2006-08-02 15:52:25 · answer #8 · answered by nonono12345 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you already got friendly and maybe want out--
2006-08-02 15:54:38 · answer #9 · answered by wancarol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. But you tell him the truth. Be honest and if he is hurt by what you tell him, he will eventually will get over it.
2006-08-02 15:53:06 · answer #10 · answered by Richard Head 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋