Girls , how frustrating!?

Question

I have been married for 15 yrs . 3 Beautiful kids.
We most of the time have $ problems and it gets very frustrating at times.
The question I have for the married ladies is if you were me and quite often , would get asked out buy very wealthy men, (I meet them in my line of work)Would you start to wonder what life could have been like?I find myself doing that a lot latley but than thinking of my 3 boys it brings me back home.It dosent however stop my angry feeling towards my husband.I start to feel like he should support me better .And I deserve so much more .And for reasons he does not know I start arguments .
Were would you go w/ these feeling?

Answer 1

I can certainy can relate to where you are coming from, however, money is not everything in a marriage. I have only been married for 5 years, and right now I do not have any kids. We have money troubles too, but I don't think of it as he should be the breadwinner taking care of me, therefore, we are struggling some now, while I go to college, so I can get a better job. Unfortunately, life is not suitable for anyone with only one main income, or if there are two, it is still difficult, but your husband, from what you have shared seems to work hard to bring the money in...it is a two way street, both of you have to contribute.

We all dream of being rich one day, maybe winning the lottery, but we also know that it is not a reality for the majority of people in this world...so while it is okay to fantasize about what it would be like if you had more money, your mind and your heart should be with your husband and your children...they are your priority..if you want to be a priority...then you would have to leave your family behind and focus on number one...

Answer 2

First of all...does your husband work hard and try to make a living, or is he just lazy, going from job to job, etc.? People can work hard and steady all their life and still have money problems. As long as he is doing the best he can with what he has, then I would say the problem is more you than him. Even when my husband and I are both working it is tough, and money is a big concern, and a major cause of problems. It is perfectly natural to wonder "What if?" Everybody does....if you are feeling this way, you should really try to take some time off of work (if that is financially possible), or find something else, to get away from the things that you wonder "what if" about...chances are it is just a "infatuation" due to the problems at home. If you get away from what you THINK you want for long enough, you just might realize that what you REALLY want is already at home.

Answer 3

Yeah, sure, I'd be wondering. Wealth is not everything, but it sure helps to not be living from paycheck to paycheck.

I don't know if you'd be right to be angry at your husband; true, some people are lazy, and only do the minimum they can get away with. But others are hard workers, it's just they're not given the talent or the intelligence to break out of the mold and make a lot of money. What is your husband more like, the former or the latter? Perhaps, you could find something for yourself to do to better the financial situation. Often, help is in our own hands. Maybe you can talk to him about it, throw some ideas around. Don't be angry with him, tho, if he works hard and tries his best to provide for the family; not everyone can be rich.

Answer 4

If you are really unhappy with your life you need to do something about it. Eventually all that remorse and questioning will catch up to you and start to show throw your daily life. You may become an angry and bitter person. Whatever the reason for your financial problems, try to get some sort of assistance (counseling). Maybe either of you can go back to school, earn a degree (if you don't have one already) Try and make a better life together. Think of your children and try to sort through this, if all else fails I suggest you move on and try to find someone who truly makes you happy.

Answer 5

Has your husband really failed by not trying to work or earn money? Or has he just not managed to progress to a high earning position? Maybe his priorities are different - his family is more important. If you and your husband are in a loving committed relationship and you are treated with respect then I think you should stop believing that the grass is greener on the other side. My uncle is a highly motivated career driven guy who earns a fortune in a great job, but believe me his family life has always suffered and his wife and child were never a priority. I'm not saying that you can never have both, but you are lucky to have the best side of the coin in my opinion - a secure and happy family unit. Would you honestly swap it for a platinum credit card??

Answer 6

I have felt that way before until I began to realize that money is not the most important thing in life. Unless money is that important to you, maybe the resentment you are feeling towards your husband has more to do with your personal needs not being met in your relationship than with anything else. Sometimes, when a person is feeling neglected or unappreciated they feel as though they would be happier if they had more material possessions. Maybe it is time to take a look inside yourself and figure out where the problem really lies.

Answer 7

I have gone through some pretty bad and tight money problems of my own. I have gotten yelled at by my husband for my decisions and the way I handle things. Lately, I have let God have it and guess what-it's gotten so much better that I am confident and happy. Let God have it. Don't hurt your family. I promise you this will pass and once it does, you will see and possibly regret ever considering leaving your family. You should both support each other equally. don't go anywhere with those feelings, it will only hurt YOU and your children in the end.

Answer 8

Well, we all want to have more money - but we need to be grateful for all that we DO have because things can go wrong so fast.

Sometimes I think about my exes and what would've happened...but I've got a great husband so I'm always glad for him.

You're where you are right now in your life for a reason - if you are destined to move on, eventually the steps will fall into place to make that happen.

Answer 9

While it's normal to have these thoughts, I wouldn't act on them by being with another man. I would strive to make the financial situation better and if I were the one to budget money better than him I would have a very long talk with him about letting me budget the money. If he doesn't agree to that then I would know that we would always be in financial debt and things would not get better in that aspect. I would have decisions to make and that would include do I want to spend the rest of my life like this?

Answer 10

The way you are acting you don't deserve sh*t. WTF give your guy a break. Why the fu%k don't you go out and get a better job instead of being a fu*cing whore and thinking about finding a rich guy. I hope you do find a rich guy and he treats to like the piece of sh*t you really are. I wonder what life would be like if I hooked up with a rich chick and guess what, if it wasn't with my wife it would suck so be great full of what you have now. Go get an equity loan, that Will make you happy, I hope your Hubie finds out what you are really all about.