I called the police when I saw my neighbor getting into violent confrontation with her ex husband. The next day she came over to my house and thretened me with bodily harm if I didn't mind my own business. What should I do?
2006-08-02 08:35:05 · 30 answers · asked by Joe K 6 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Leave messy love alone. You tried to do the right thing, but she apparently didn't want the help. While most healthy people understand theres a problem there, the two involved do not. And no amount of help you offer will change that until they themselves are ready (if ever) to see that. Sorry about your situation. Sometimes the best and only thing you can do is let it be. Good luck.
2006-08-02 08:39:18 · answer #1 · answered by burn20out 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Report the threat and if the violence continues, call the police again. If she doesn't want people involved in her "private" business then she needs to keep her business private.
Appalling, isn't it? He assaults her but you are the one in the wrong....sheesh.
And people wonder why a cop hates domestic calls the most. The escalate the quickest and hold the most potential for violence. It's not uncommon for the person who called for help to turn on those trying to help.
2006-08-02 15:44:15 · answer #2 · answered by sarhibar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your self if the neighbor's behavior spills over into your life. Does the fighting happen so that you experience it without looking for it? If so, call the cops, it your right. She doesn't have the sense to do it herself. But remember that her perception of the issues are not same as yours, so, be discrete when you call, explain to the cops that you have been threatened with violence by her for calling and let them take it from there.
2006-08-02 15:42:26 · answer #3 · answered by GRUMPY1LUVS2EAT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because she's afraid of what HE will do to her. Believe me honey, I lived that life. You call the cops, then he blames her..IT'S NOT RIGHT, but it's the cold, hard truth...Look in your phone book and look up numbers to domestic abuse hotlines & simply write it on a piece of paper & slip it to her when you see her outside. Just be cautious, because if HE sees you do it, chances are that she'll get smacked around for it. Here's the number for the nationwide hotlline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
Smile at her and tell her that she does not have to live everyday of her life afraid...
I commend you for wanting to make a difference, if only someone had stepped up and tried to help me - maybe I wouldn't have waited so long to get the strength to leave mine...
I applaud you, Marilyn
2006-08-02 15:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing the first time but now ignore it, it sounds like she doesn't want help so let her stupid *** keep getting the crap beat out of her. I don't understand people when it comes to domestic abuse. She is threatening you for trying to help, whatever. Plus why did police tell them who called?
2006-08-02 15:45:02 · answer #5 · answered by Raw Dog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard question to answer, normally I'd say yes, but if their violence escalates, and you end up with gunfire in your apartment then you will be sorry you didn't call the police. I'd call, then ask the police not to say I did and I'd also file a police report that she threatened you, Get a gun, fast.
2006-08-02 15:45:19 · answer #6 · answered by sapphire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot help those who do not want help.
It was good that you called the police to try to help and I for one applaud your concern over the fighting and her danger.She should have thanked you .I do... next time honey just ignore it and that sad dumb woman.
And ChickNorris a fake shotgun will get your real a**
killed... you be careful ok
2006-08-02 15:46:33 · answer #7 · answered by Yakuza 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say keep calling the police, she wont know it was you. And if she wants you to keep outta her dumb a*)*) business then she needs to hide it better. I say ur doing the right thing brother, keep it up. If she come to ur door like that again get UR WIFE to show her hows it done. Or a simple cousin wil do too.
2006-08-02 15:41:59 · answer #8 · answered by peacfulwar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
pack some heat, and keep a fake shotgun by the door where she can see it next time she comes over, then call the cops. hhahaha. that would be so awesome. i wish my neighbors were domestically violent. cuz id do that.
2006-08-02 15:38:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, those are always tricky situations. When the cops are called they always go in with as many as they can muster. I would stay out of it as much as possible except for when it bothers your peace or they are going to actually kill each other. Good luck you'll probally have your tires cut for already butting in!
2006-08-02 15:43:57 · answer #10 · answered by Boredstiff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋