I have been "with" this guy for almost three years. He has never said I love you and I have not even met his mother. Is this basically saying that he does not give a damn? We get along great and and have great sex......what should I do? I am getting a little tired of never knowing how he thinks!!!
2006-08-02 08:34:22 · 9 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
just in response to some of the responses I have read, I have talked to him about it before, but the general consensus was that he did not know what he wanted. I would normally right him off as a sex buddy, but he has been there for me some many other times than just for sex. Bringing me medicine in the middle of the night when I've been sick, sticking by me through knee surgery (and we were definetly not having sex in those two months! :-)). He takes me out to dinners and movies.....He comes over and plays with my daughter.....Would he do all that if was just sex? OR is this just the way that he keeps me on a leash?
2006-08-02 10:09:19 · update #1
I think that pretty much tells you what he thinks of you...your his sex toy and not worthy of being in any other part of his life. He doesn't tell you he loves you or let you meet his mother because he simply has no feelings for you other than he wants to have sex with you.
2006-08-02 08:39:14 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's got a sex buddy, so he's happy. If you want more from a relationship then I suggest you move on...why has it taken you 3 yrs to decide he's not going to put more into it himself? The admission of love generally occurs sometime during the first year...
He gives a damn, he has what he wants...a sex partner with no emotional strings attached...there's nothing wrong with that, unless you don't want that too (and apparently you're tired of it).
Talk to him...if you've been having sex with him for the better part of 3 yrs, you darned sure should be able to communicate. Then after that conversation, decide what you want to do from there...
2006-08-02 15:41:34 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree....I've been proposed to by 3 different sucessful, handome men, and one thing they all had in common is that they let me know that they loved & cared about me by saying it---and they also wanted me TO MEET THEIR MOTHER. After I met their mother or grandmothers, they would usually propose soon after...And I never slept with ANY of them--no form of sex at all.
This man is using you for sex--period. You are his "Toy".
You need to realize that you are not getting any younger, only older. You've wasted 3 years already. How old are you?? Well, dont let another 3 years go by, and you'll be 3 years older with no ring on your finger...I suggest you play hardball. Leave his a s s, and if he wants you, he'll propose. If he doesnt come back to you--he was never yours to begin with.
2006-08-02 15:44:05 · answer #3 · answered by Plus-Sized &Proud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told him how you feel? I am guessing you have and if you have and he still continues to act this way you should dump him. This guy has know you too long now. There is no reason he should not be saying "I love you" or asking you to come and meet his family. Move on. If he is treating you this way after 3 years things will not change. You can do better.
2006-08-02 15:46:21 · answer #4 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its sounds very strange that hes never told u he loves u since u guys have been dating for 3 years. chances are hes just interested in a physical relationship. if u r 2 then thats cool, but if youre not u need to end it with him. u deserve more than that. and try sitting down and talking to him. ask him what the relationship means to him. hang in there, if hes not meant for u youll find someone better that says "i love u" and means it.
2006-08-02 15:42:05 · answer #5 · answered by sarah_gotdance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really need an answer to this? This seems like a rhetorical question. He doesn't love you and you're not important enough to meet his family in 3 years, what do you think?
2006-08-02 19:27:44 · answer #6 · answered by sickandtiredinpa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say i love you and if he just shrugs it off get out of there cause he dont like you hes just using you get out fast
2006-08-02 15:42:58 · answer #7 · answered by teen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone better
2006-08-02 15:41:01 · answer #8 · answered by save_me_now 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you talk to him about it? have you ask?
If not give it a try.
2006-08-02 15:39:35 · answer #9 · answered by Carlos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋